Praising - Fame - Popularity - Awarding - Punishing
We want to encourage
people without giving people a
, like schools
do with testing
much more effective then
being threatened with negative consequences. If learning is not
you are not doing it right
are not a reward,
just like money
is not a
is not a reward, but
is rewarding because of the many lasting benefits.
Being Good Has its own Reward
, but only if you
The Computational Development of Reinforcement Learning during Adolescence
Children Growing up
are more receptive to rewards than they are to punishments of equal value
'I will give you a gift or privileges to do the dishes' might work better
than saying 'I will take gifts or privileges from you if you don't do the
dishes'. Reward-based approach is more likely to be effective. Learning
needs to be its own reward
so that learning creates its own
. Like the many
rewards of understanding yourself more accurately and more fully, and
understanding the world around you more accurately and more fully.
involuntary and nearly instantaneous movement in response to a stimulus.
is the experience of feeling or emotion. Affect is a key part
of the process of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also
refers sometimes to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural
behavior that serves as an indicator of affect"
is a detectable change in the internal or external environment. The
ability of an organism or organ to respond to external stimuli is called
. When a stimulus is
applied to a sensory receptor
, it normally elicits or influences a reflex
via stimulus transduction. These sensory receptors can receive
outside the body, as in touch receptors found in the skin or light
receptors in the eye, as well as from inside the body, as in
chemoreceptors and mechanorceptors
internal stimulus is often the first component of a homeostatic control
system. External stimuli are capable of producing systemic responses
throughout the body, as in the fight-or-flight
response. In order for a
stimulus to be detected with high probability, its level must exceed the
absolute threshold; if a signal does reach threshold, the information is
transmitted to the central
(CNS), where it is integrated and a decision on how to
react is made. Although stimuli commonly cause the body to respond, it is
the CNS that finally determines whether a signal causes a reaction or not.
action of various agents or forms of energy (stimuli) on receptors that
generate impulses that travel through nerves to the brain (afferents).
There are sensory receptors on or near the surface of the body, such as
photoreceptors in the retina of the eye, hair cells in the cochlea of the
ear, touch receptors
in the skin and chemical receptors in the mouth and nasal cavity. There
are also sensory receptors in the muscles, joints,
, and membranes around
organs such as the brain, the abdominal cavity, the bladder and the
prostate (providing one source of
). Stimulation to the external or internal senses may evoke
involuntary activity or guide intentions in action. Such emotional or
motivating stimulation typically is also experienced subjectively (enters
, is in consciousness). Perception
can be regarded as conceptualised stimulation, used in reasoning and
intending, for example. When bodily stimulation is perceived it is
traditionally called a sensation, such as a kind of touch or a
taste or smell
, or a painful or
pleasurable sensation. This can be thought of as psychological
stimulation, which is a stimulus affecting a person's
Stimulus Control Scale
is a stimulus just strong enough to
is an implicit memory effect in which exposure to
one stimulus (i.e., perceptual pattern) influences the response to another
stimulus. Power of Disgust
is defined as the
diminished emotional responsiveness
to a negative, aversive or
positive stimulus after repeated exposure to it. It also occurs when an
emotional response is repeatedly evoked in situations in which the action
tendency that is associated with the emotion proves irrelevant or
Nature, meet nurture
. Single-cell analysis reveals diverse landscape
of genetic changes in the brain after a
affective state in which a person experiences
or excitement and intense feelings of well-being and
, many of which are
, can cause euphoria,
which at least partially motivates their recreational use. Similarly,
certain natural rewards and social activities, such as aerobic
, listening to emotionally arousing
, music-making, and dancing, can
induce a state of euphoria. Euphoria is also a symptom of certain
neurological or neuropsychiatric disorders, such as mania.
and components of the
sexual response cycle
are also associated with the induction of
euphoria. According to Kent Berridge, an affective neuroscientist, intense
euphoria occurs from the simultaneous activation of every hedonic hotspot
within the brain's reward system.
refers to an
extremely exaggerated response to an intoxicant.
is a survival mechanism of life.
a group of neural structures responsible for incentive salience (i.e.,
"wanting" or desire), pleasure (i.e., "liking" or hedonic value), and
positive reinforcement. Reward is the attractive and motivational property
of a stimulus
that induces appetitive behavior – also known as approach
behavior – and consummatory behavior.
refers to the "wanting" or "desire" attribute given by the
brain – specifically, by the
shell – to a rewarding stimulus. Reward is the
attractive and motivational property of a stimulus that induces appetitive
behavior – also known as approach behavior – and consummatory behavior.
New Neurons in the Adult Brain are involved in Sensory Learning
Scientists have demonstrated that the new
produced in adults
react preferentially to reward-related sensory
and help speed up the association between sensory
information and reward. Adult-born neurons therefore play an important
role in both the identification of a sensory stimulus and the
associated with that sensory experience. The neurons generated shortly
after birth are unable to perform this function.
Pleasure is not a Measure of Value.
Just because you like something that makes
you feel good
, this doesn't mean that the thing you like is good for
you, or good for other people or the world. Finding pleasure in things
that are slowly killing you or slowly degrading the world, is a clear sign
of a disease. Even though humans have learned to understand a lot of
different diseases and have also learned how to control them, humans still
have not yet learned how to control and minimize the
diseases of the mind
have made incredible advancements in many different areas in technologies
and in medicines, but not in
. Finding Pleasure in things
that are known and confirmed to be good for you even when you don't enjoy
, will help
you to experience more pleasures in life then ever before. But even then,
life still needs balance
So you will still have to experience things that don't give you pleasure,
like with some
. So you have to understand how important certain
actions are even if there is no perceived pleasure in doing them. Focus on
the known benefits. Try
Mixing Exercise with Music
Mixing foods that you do
like with Foods that you don't like
is an activity that
increases the likelihood of satisfying a specific
occurs where a
subject learns behaviour preventing the occurence of an aversive stimulus.
is a form of
in which an
object or person is moved towards, avoidant behavior where there is
movement awayConsummatory behavior
is a behavior pattern
that occurs in response to a stimulus and that
achieves the satisfaction of a specific drive.
is a stimulus event for which the animal will work
in order to acquire it. Verbal and physical reward is very useful positive
or Negative punishment?
that will strengthen an organism's future behavior whenever
that behavior is preceded by a specific repeated stimulus.
is a reinforcer that is not learned; it is "naturally"
reinforcing. Secondary reinforcer
or conditioned reinforcer is
learned; it is not a stimulus that is naturally reinforcing.
is learning or training using a sound like a click,
whistle or word, which is needed to follow the desired behavior
immediately after the behavior occurred (even a delay of a second or two
could reduce performance).
is the experience of feeling or
. Affect is a key part of the process
of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also refers sometimes
to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural behavior that
serves as an indicator of affect" (APA 2006). 3 principal dimensions:
valence, arousal, and
. Emotional valence refers to the emotion’s consequences,
emotion-eliciting circumstances, or subjective feelings or attitudes.
is objectively measurable as activation of the
sympathetic nervous system
but can also be assessed subjectively via self-report. Arousal is a
construct that is closely related to motivational intensity but they
differ in that motivation necessarily implies action while arousal does
not. Motivational intensity refers to the
to act; the
strength of an urge to move toward or away from a stimulus. Simply moving
is not considered approach (or avoidance) motivation without a
motivational urge present.
is successive approximations, when an existing
response is gradually changed across successive trials towards a desired
target behavior by rewarding exact segments of behavior.
means the intrinsic attractiveness (positive valence) or aversiveness (negative valence) of an event, object, or situation
reward versus punishment.
is a type of learning in which the
strength of a behavior is modified by its consequences, such as reward or
punishment, and the behavior is controlled by repeated carefully judged stimuli which come to signal those
consequences. (also "instrumental conditioning")
A preceding occurrence or cause or event. Preceding in
time or order.
is a learning process in which an innate response
to a potent stimulus comes to be elicited in response to a previously
neutral stimulus; Unlearned reflex response (e.g., salivation). This is achieved by repeated pairings of the neutral
stimulus with the potent stimulus. (also known as Pavlovian or respondent
(senses errors) - Brain
is observed in both operantly conditioned and classically conditioned
behavior. When operant behavior that has been previously reinforced no
longer produces reinforcing consequences the behavior gradually stops
occurring. In classical conditioning, when a conditioned
presented alone, so that it no longer predicts the coming of the
unconditioned stimulus, conditioned responding gradually stops. For
example, after Pavlov's dog was conditioned to salivate at the sound of a
metronome, it eventually stopped salivating to the metronome after the
metronome had been sounded repeatedly but no food came. Many anxiety
disorders such as posttraumatic stress disorder
are believed to reflect,
at least in part, a failure to extinguish conditioned Fear
is the measured brain response that is the
direct result of a specific sensory
, cognitive, or motor event. More
formally, it is any stereotyped electrophysiological response to a
. The study of the brain in this way
provides a noninvasive means of evaluating brain functioning.
What are the dangers of getting too much
refers to positive
made by a person of
another's products, performances, or attributes, where the evaluator
presumes the validity
of the standards on which the evaluation is based.
The influence of praise on an individual can depend on many factors,
including the context, the meanings the praise may convey, and the
characteristics and interpretations of the recipient. Praise is distinct
from acknowledgement or feedback, which are more neutral forms of
, which is more future oriented. In
addition, while praise may share some predictive relationships (both
positive and negative) with tangible rewards, praise tends to be less
salient and expected, conveys more information about
, and is
typically given more immediately after the desired behavior.
is to Praise, glorify, or honor.
"We want to give
to someone, but not if the encouragement causes someone
not to become better because they think that they're good
. They might not
see room for improvement, and thus, not improve or get better when
they could if they
and learn more
Spoiling a Child
can sometimes do more harm then good and
end up becoming a form of
"When children receive special treatment, they could become
, and they may also believe that they
, and that they are also more superior
What are the dangers too much
is to speak with excessive pride and
self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.
when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession
and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.
is not a good
, what other methods can help make someone
aware of danger
You have to know the differences between
, there are different effects. What are you
reinforcing? Most people have no idea of the dangers that
comes from manipulating someone's behavior.
is something that you need to fully
understand, because if you don't, you could easily damage
is the benefit resulting from some
event or action. An act performed to strengthen approved behavior. Some
form of payment made in return for a service rendered. To
for worthy acts, or
for wrongdoing. Award
tangible symbol signifying approval or distinction. Something given for
victory or winning or superiority in a contest or competition. Give as
judged due or on the basis of merit.
something given to a person, a group of people, or an organization to
recognize their excellence in a certain field; a certificate of
excellence. Awards are often signified by trophies, titles, certificates,
commemorative plaques, medals, badges, pins, or ribbons. An award may
carry a monetary prize given to the recipient; for example, the Nobel
Prize for contributions to society or the Pulitzer Prize for literary
achievements. An award may also simply be a public acknowledgment of
excellence, without any tangible token or prize of excellence.
is a small, flat, and round (at times, ovoid) piece of
metal that has been sculpted, molded, cast, struck, stamped, or some way
marked with an insignia, portrait, or other artistic rendering. A medal
may be awarded to a person or organization as a form of recognition for
sporting, military, scientific, academic, or various other achievements.
is a artistic crafted object that is a reminder of a
specific achievement, and serves as recognition or evidence of merit.
is to be worthy or
deserving. Any admirable quality or attribute
. The quality of being
is an area of machine learning
inspired by behaviorist psychology, concerned with how software agents
ought to take actions in an environment so as to maximize some notion of
An Upside to Reward Sensitivity:
The Hippocampus Supports Enhanced
Reinforcement Learning in Adolescence.
- Performance Review - Performance Evaluation
information-specific, issue-focused, and based on observations. It comes
in two varieties: Praise and criticism are both personal judgments about a
performance effort or outcome, with praise being a favorable judgment and
criticism, an unfavorable judgment. You can learn from criticism as long
as long as it's not a judgment
Public Opinion Surveys
Pros and Cons - For or Against - Pluses and Minuses
Positive and Negative Attributes - Good Points and Bad Points
Good vs Bad
Side by Side Comparison
There is only so much you can learn from your Experiences
is not as important as having people
Why telling kids to Dream Big is a big con
but only if you
don't explain it correctly
Prizes and awards are almost becoming insulting and
embarrassing these days. We know for a fact that 100's of other
accomplishments have happened, so why don't they get the same
recognition? Are we commodifying knowledge? Are we putting a
price tag on each other's lives using only money? And
who in the
hell is deciding
Should you High
someone every time they do something you like? Can you
High 5 too much? Is High Five Abuse real?
– 2 of the most Harmful Words in the English Language. Not
really, but you get the point. And the point is not to give
someone a false impression that greatness has been achieved. And
you don't necessarily need to push someone to greatness, you
need to show someone how to push themselves. And show them that
greatness is achieved by putting in the time and the effort.
And to remind them that they need to seek out the most valuable
knowledge and information that they can find, and seek out the
experts to help explain this knowledge and information to them.
is extremely valuable, but so is knowing how
to coach yourself, train yourself, practice yourself and to
Sometimes a nice compliment can be taken the wrong way,
and end up causing more harm then good.
is a remark (or act) expressing praise and admiration.
and to be given credit when credits due. People
also want to be
, Valued and to be
But people should not rely on these factors when measuring the
worth of their actions. People should also not use
when measuring their worth. A persons value is measured by their
, by their
and by how they value other people, and also how they value
life and the world in which we live. You need healthy
as well as
if you want to understand the world correctly and
also to be prepared for the reality of life. So don't get caught
up in your need to be
for that could fill you with a
, which could have negative impacts on your
instead of benefiting you.
Coddling - Protective Instinct
Just because you allow your kids to
, or give them freedom, this does not mean they will
automatically learn the right things from their experiences,
they still need guidance, they still need valuable and important
knowledge and information about the world and about human life.
You don't want them to waste time like you did, or suffer from
the same mistakes that you did. But you still
need to teach them about those mistakes and about how you wasted
time. And tell them how to avoid wasting time and how to avoid
making costly mistakes. This means teaching them problem
solving, decision making, communication, information literacy
and learning, to name just a few.
Effects of maternal investment, temperament, and cognition on guide dog
. More intense mothering early in life was associated with
guide dog program failure. But active mothering is still better than no
is to be harmed by
pampering or excessive attention.
is an inability to resist the
gratification of whims and desires
. A disposition to yield to the
wishes of someone. Foolish or senseless behavior.
is to give free rein to. Enjoy to
is the trait
of being considerate and thoughtful of
. The trait of being observant and paying
is an inclination to favor some person or group. Unfair treatment
of a person or group on the basis of prejudice. The practice of
giving unfair preferential treatment to one person or group at the expense
an observer's overall impression of a person, company, brand, or product
influences the observer's feelings and thoughts about that entity's
character or properties.
is being biased
or having a belief or attitude formed beforehand.
Containing or implying a slight or showing prejudice.
Capable of making fine distinctions. Manifesting partiality.
is the influence (somebody's)
opinion in advance
. A partiality
consideration of an issue or situation
is emphasizing or expressing things as perceived without distortion
of personal feelings, without bias, without insertion of
fictional matter or interpretation. Undistorted by emotion
or personal bias. Not to influence in an unfair way.
is a predisposition to like something. An inclination to favor one
group or view or opinion over alternatives.
is to express
approval of. An expression of approval and commendation. Offering words of
homage as an act of worship.
Acceptance as satisfactory. A message expressing a favorable opinion.
Emotional Freedom Technique Giving
Recognition EFT Training
Evaluate Personal Attributes
To give someone Props
is short for "propers" as in, "proper respect" An act of
congratulations, an expression of joy in the success or good
fortune of another. An expression of approval and commendation.
The act of acknowledging that someone has an occasion for
is praise and honor received for an achievement. Compliments or
is a mid-level United States military
decoration which is presented for sustained acts of heroism or meritorious
Don't look at your parents as savors or
know it all's
, look at your parents as children, children
who were never given a chance to grow up, or given a chance to
learn as much as they should have. You have to see yourself as
the one who must be the adult, you're the one who must keep it
together, you're the one that everyone is counting on, you are
the one. But don't be overwhelmed by all the responsibilities,
keep your life balanced, and keep learning, because valuable
information and knowledge will ultimately become your most
trusted advisor. Embrace the future.
It really means nothing if you
can't say it nicely.
I'm always disappointed in myself when I use
. Because I know that it's really
not an effective way to communicate. I'm trying to convey an
idea, so why do I need emotion? Only babies should scream, I'm
an adult now, I can find the words, and so I shall. If you can't
communicate true meaning, you're wasting time and offering
nothing of value? Information is supposed to be insightful, not
Is being strict,
, demanding and giving
considered forms of abuse?
has negative effects on
with someone because of their ignorance
does not help them understand their
may make someone aware of a problem, but it does not solve the problem.
Physical Abuse and Punishment impact Children’s academic Performance
A Penn State researcher and her collaborator found that physical abuse was
associated with decreases in children’s cognitive performance, while
non-abusive forms of physical punishment were independently associated
with reduced school engagement and increased peer isolation.
are ignorant ways to teach or learn, unless of
are a dog
People who hit dogs and yell at dogs constantly, will most
likely do the same with children, which both are crimes of abuse.
Motivation through Punishment may not always work
. Parents who scold
their children to correct their behavior can have the opposite effect.
- Child Abuse
has negative effects on
Negative Effects of Power and Authority
is a type of corporal punishment involving the act
of striking the buttocks of another person to cause physical pain, and
. Generally done with an open hand (more commonly
referred to in some countries as slapping or smacking). More severe forms
of spanking, such as switching, paddling, belting, caning, whipping, and
birching, involve the use of an implement instead of a hand.
is a form of
corporal punishment consisting of a number of hits (known as "strokes" or
"cuts") with a single cane usually made of rattan, generally applied to
the offender's bare or clothed buttocks (see spanking) or hand(s) (on the
palm). Caning on the knuckles or shoulders is much less common. Caning can
also be applied to the soles of the feet (foot whipping or bastinado). The
size and flexibility of the cane and the mode of application, as well
as the number of the strokes, vary greatly — from a couple of light
strokes with a small cane across the seat of a junior schoolboy's
trousers, to 24 very hard, wounding cuts on the bare buttocks with a
large, heavy, soaked rattan as a judicial punishment in some Southeast
Versus Punish to Parent In the Smart Zone
Nature versus Nurture
relates to the relative
importance of an individual's innate qualities ("nature" in the sense of
nativism or innatism) as compared to an individual's personal experiences
("nurture" in the sense of empiricism or behaviorism) in causing
individual differences, especially in behavioral traits.
The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy
their parents and to experience increased
aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties,
according to a new meta-analysis of 50 years of research on
spanking by experts at the University of Texas at Austin and the
University of Michigan.
Journal of Family Psychology
restrict people when we are not educated enough to give them
good directions. I'm not saying that discipline should never be
used, I'm just saying if that's all you use is punishment, then
you are condemning yourself to have to repeat the punishment,
and also deal with all the side effects that come from
Adolescence and Parental Favoritism
Triple P: Positive Parenting Program
is a parenting
the main goals of increasing the knowledge, skills, and confidence of
parents and reducing the prevalence of mental health, emotional, and
behavioral problems in children and adolescents. The program was
originally specifically tailored for at risk children and parents, but
there are now different levels of Triple P designed to work together as a
broad, universal, public health approach. This program is based on
principles of community psychology.
Paying Attention without Spoiling
Contingent Reinforcement Use
When you discipline a child about
something that you perceive to be wrong or bad,
don't forget to discipline yourself in learning the current facts about
all the dangers in this world
. If you are going to educate your
child about the dangers of
, don't forget to mention all the drugs in all their forms,
including foods, because poor nutrition
kills more people and cost billions of dollars more in healthcare costs
then all drugs combined
A person who makes bad decisions
and bad choices is not necessarily a
. Some people are just really
and sometimes just a little
. Mostly because of their upbringing and how they
were raised and how they were educated. There are many things
that happens in a persons life that can cause a persons
to be altered and changed. Sometimes theses
changes in a persons
are good and sometimes they are
bad. What ever it is, some people will always need more patience
and more understanding then usual.
is a lot easier when it's just a
. Be careful
what you wish for. Popularity
has its dangers.
If too much attention can make you dysfunctional, and not enough
can make you dysfunctional,
then what is the correct amount of
a person should have? Can you still be
alienated or isolated
even when you
have lots of friends?Ego-Big
- Over Confidence
What's the difference between being
and being famous?
Not all famous people are popular, and not all popular people are
Not all people who do great
things become famous or popular
. So many seemingly little things
that average people do never get the recognition they deserve. People need
to understand that value
is not measured by fame or popularity
is a performance presented to an
audience within a fine art
traditionally interdisciplinary. Performance may be either scripted or
unscripted, random or
; spontaneous or otherwise carefully planned
with or without audience participation. The performance can be live or via
media; the performer can be present or absent. It can be any situation
that involves four basic elements: time, space, the performer's body, or
presence in a medium, and a relationship between performer and audience.
Performance art can happen anywhere, in any type of venue or setting and
for any length of time. The actions of an individual or a group at a
particular place and in a particular time constitute the work.
refers to the fame and public attention accorded by the media to
individuals or groups or, occasionally, animals, but is usually applied to
the persons or groups of people (celebrity couples, families, etc.)
themselves who receive such a status of fame and attention. Celebrity
status is often associated with wealth (commonly referred to as fame and
fortune), while fame often provides opportunities to make money.
Stresses of Being a Celebrity
form of collective behavior
that develops within a culture
and which impulse is followed enthusiastically by a group
of people for a finite period of time. Similar to habits or customs but
less durable, fads often result from an activity or behavior being
perceived as emotionally popular or exciting within a peer group or being
deemed "cool" as often promoted by social networks. A fad is said to
"catch on" when the number of people adopting it begins to increase to the
point of being noteworthy. Fads often fade quickly when the perception of
novelty is gone.
- the influences of power and how it controls.
- Too Much Praise
is not an accurate measurement of how valuable something
something is. Popularity is not a measurement of how important
someone is, or how important some thing is, especially
knowing that you can
easily be fooled
information is skewed
lies and misleads
, so you need to be careful. The
retweets, or views indicate value is a
of an undereducated mind.
Don't use popularity as your only
to determine how true or how important something is.
never stop learning
Psychology of the Like Button, the
loop. The like button can boost your ego or shatter your ego.
the like button a vote for
? And do you understand what you're voting for?
Our Social Networks Need an
Argumentum ad Populum
something is true
because many or most people believe it: "If
many believe so, it is so."
is being liked, admired, or enjoyed by many people or by a
particular person or group. Regarded with great favor, approval, or affection
especially by the general public. But popular is
not a measurement of Value
is the quality of being widely admired or
accepted or sought after.
is behaving in a way which is in pursuit of
attention from others. The attention they receive gives them a good
feeling and boosts their self-esteem and self-worth. Where such behavior
is excessive and inappropriate, the term is often used pejoratively in
regard to children's behavior in front of peers or to negative domestic
is respect, reverence, strong admiration or
devotion in a certain person, place, or thing. The term comes from the
Latin adōrātiō, meaning "to give homage or worship to someone or
when we think other people are noticing us much more than they actually
are. We feel that others evaluate our appearance and behavior intensely,
when often it’s not true at all.
occurs when we let a single personality trait spill over so
that it influences our overall perception of a person. In other words,
traits in one area affect our general
. Don't judge a book by its cover.
is having a tendency to prefer what’s popular. It’s easy to conform to
popular ideas without checking the evidence, especially when we get our
information from others.
is a person who opposes or rejects popular opinion, going
against current practice.
very opposed in nature or character or
. Of words or propositions
so related that both cannot be true but both may be false.
Three Men make a Tiger
refers to an individual's tendency to
accept absurd information
as long as it is repeated by enough
is a form of modern folklore consisting of
, often with macabre elements deeply rooted in
local popular culture
is that which is generally agreed to be
, based on a
Argument from Authority
is a common type of argument which
can be fallacious, such as when an authority is cited on a topic
outside their area of expertise or when the authority cited is
not a true
Truth by Consensus
is the process of taking statements to be
true simply because
people generally agree upon them
Consensus Theory of Truth
is the process of taking
statements to be true simply because people generally agree upon
is an attributional type of
whereby people tend to overestimate the extent to which their
opinions, beliefs, preferences, values, and habits are normal
and typical of those of others (i.e., that others also think the
same way that they do). This
tends to lead to the
perception of a consensus
that does not exist, a "false
Fundamental Attribution Error
is the tendency for people to
place an undue emphasis on internal characteristics of the agent
(character or intention), rather than
, in explaining another person's behavior in
a given situation. This contrasts with interpreting one's own
behavior, where situational factors are more easily recognized
and can be taken into account.
is a psychological phenomenon where people
actions of others in an attempt to reflect correct behavior for a given
situation. This effect is prominent in ambiguous social situations where
people are unable to determine the appropriate mode of
, and is
driven by the assumption
that surrounding people possess more knowledge about the situation.
(social influences) -
Just because you have a
or have people
interested in what you can provide for them, this should not be a reason
for you to do something. Just like money
should not be a reason to do something. What you do should be defined by
. And the
you provide should
with a clear
of your actions. When people
egg you on
, it's not because
you're popular, it's mostly because they would rather
risk and the work
to you in the form of
, this way your fans can live through you vicariously.
But entertainers should not excuse people from having their own life. We
need to separate these worlds so that the line that separates them never
becomes blurred or undefined. Entertainment is great, and it's a great way
to express ourselves, but we can't allow ourselves to slip into a quasi
reality, because when we do, Reality
will slowly deteriorate to a point where neither reality or
could survive, you would
become lost in a dream and forever in a coma. If you want real
entertainment, reality and knowledge has more entertainment then any other
art form, it's limitless, it's mind-blowing, and it's wonderful.
Try it Mikey,
you'll like it.
is something or someone widely known
and esteemed. But being famous is not a measurement
But who made them famous?
What is Success
is someone who is adored blindly and excessively. Worship
Confidence can be Dangerous
Everyone will experience fame and
certain degree and level sometime during their life. We need to
teach about the effects that power and fame has on the mind, and
how it can control our behavior and also warp our view of
ourselves and our view of the world. We also need to teach the
effects of rejection and paranoia.
"You don't have to
the exact same way as others do in order to
learn from them or benefit from them. You just need to
understand the lessons and the purposes of these lessons. You
don't need to be a professional basketball player in order to
understand the game or enjoy the game. You just need to be aware
of the skills and the knowledge that is gained from these types
of interactions. The skill level in which you achieve in a
, or in a particular art, is not as important as
your level of understanding. What's the point at being great at
something if you never become a great person."
"Don't worry about people knowing you, just make yourself worth knowing."
"Everyone wants to be
Admired and Appreciated, it's an amazing and beautiful feeling
that is soothing to the soul. It's a confirmation that says that
you are good enough to be loved, that you are worthy, and that
you are special. But there is a risk because you could
accidentally create a
Sense of Security
. And when it comes to
, and their vulnerabilities, we have to be
very careful that we don't allow ourselves to be consumed or
manipulated to a point where we lose total
of ourselves. Some people even have a tendency to
stop maturing and become content with what they know.
And if you
stop learning and growing, you will sacrifice your potential and
end up finding yourself lost. But don't worry, it's happens to a
lot of people, learn from it and move on, the ride is far from
Stay True to Yourself
In those unique moments when you have to make a
abandon everything that you have learned, and don't throw
away everything close to you, like
family and friends
. If this
is something that you would not normally do, or if this is
something that goes against your good judgment or contradicts
your beliefs, then this is something that needs to
stay true to
. But in those moments when you go against everything
that you believe in, and everything that you know, you better
have a good reason
those are the
kind of mistakes
that are the most painful
and the most
I love watching
documentaries about bands who became really famous
I love how it shows that most people just start out with simple
and normal lives. And then one day their abilities come in line
with an opportunity of a life time, and just by
lives are changed forever. Of course these documentaries never
show a complete story, these are only a few particular moments
in a persons life, so we have no idea who they are, or who they
could have been if their lives would have been different. I
myself think it's better to dream about these experiences then
to have them come true. Because I would hate to live a dream
that I was unable to wake up from, that would suck. But of
course you don't have to be famous to be at that crossroad like
that, because everyone has to make decisions. And what ever
those decisions were, or how bad some of those decisions were,
you have to find a way to live through those decisions no matter
what, because you are here for a reason, so you have to find
that reason, because it may not find you. If you're not looking
for it, you may never find it. But be careful where you look, if
you're not looking in the right places at the right time, you
may find more trouble then success. Remember, life is a double
edge sword, but it's your sword, so being dull on one side might
be a little safer. But this is your life, not mine.
Zeplin the story of Led Zeplin 2004
This insightful documentary chronicles the band's history from
their 1968 formation to their reign as 1970s hard-rock giants
through rare photographs, archival footage, and interviews with
both the band members and those who worked with them.
Aired: 06/08/2004 | 55 min. -
and Courtney (1998)
Beginning as an observation of the music of
and his Seattle/Portland contemporaries, Kurt
and Courtney took a different turn when
intervened. Directed by Nick Broomfield.
Aired: 02/28/1998 | 1 hr. 35 min.
"I don't want fame
, I don't want to be popular, I don't want
a lot of money, I just want to make a positive difference in
peoples lives and make a positive difference to the planet that
we all share. I would rather be like everyone else. Ambiguously
blending in with all the people around me without unneeded
attention or unwarranted
distractions. I want to Live a
and to fall in love
Of course there is more to life
, but we
shouldn't let the details of our
diminish our lives or cloud us from the
miracle of life itself. We have a job to do, but we also have a
life to live. For now I'm anonymously saving the world, like
millions have done in the past, and like the millions who are
presently saving the world today. I seek no glory because the
reward is the preservation of life, and ending the burden of
life that millions of people suffer from that are the result of
ignorant people. An ignorant mind is its own worst enemy.
And the ignorant
so called educated
and wealthy are the most
damaging enemy of innocent people all around the world. "I
understand the admiration, I have it too for others. Just don't
let your admiration blind you from knowing how incredible you
are. I admire
you, and you
admire me, we admire each other, we admire the world, so
admiration is OK, just don't forget we are all in this