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We want to encourage people without giving people a false sense of accomplishment, like schools do with testing. Reward-Based Learning is much more effective then punishment or being threatened with negative consequences. If learning is not rewarding then you are not doing it right. Good grades are not a reward, just like money is not a reward. Drugs or temporary gratification is not a reward, but eating healthy and exercising is rewarding because of the many lasting benefits. Being Good Has its own Reward, but only if you learn why.

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Clapping The Computational Development of Reinforcement Learning during Adolescence - Stimulation

Effects on Children Growing up - Punishment

Learning Methods - Teaching Methods - Fame

Reward-Based Learning

Adolescents are more receptive to rewards than they are to punishments of equal value 'I will give you a gift or privileges to do the dishes' might work better than saying 'I will take gifts or privileges from you if you don't do the dishes'. Reward-based approach is more likely to be effective. Learning needs to be its own reward so that learning creates its own motivation. Like the many rewards of understanding yourself more accurately and more fully, and understanding the world around you more accurately and more fully. Reality Based and Sustainable.

Reflex is an involuntary and nearly instantaneous movement in response to a stimulus. Instinct

Affect is the experience of feeling or emotion. Affect is a key part of the process of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also refers sometimes to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural behavior that serves as an indicator of affect"

Stimulus (physiology) is a detectable change in the internal or external environment. The ability of an organism or organ to respond to external stimuli is called sensitivity. When a stimulus is applied to a sensory receptor, it normally elicits or influences a reflex via stimulus transduction. These sensory receptors can receive information from outside the body, as in touch receptors found in the skin or light receptors in the eye, as well as from inside the body, as in chemoreceptors and mechanorceptors. An internal stimulus is often the first component of a homeostatic control system. External stimuli are capable of producing systemic responses throughout the body, as in the fight-or-flight response. In order for a stimulus to be detected with high probability, its level must exceed the absolute threshold; if a signal does reach threshold, the information is transmitted to the central nervous system (CNS), where it is integrated and a decision on how to react is made. Although stimuli commonly cause the body to respond, it is the CNS that finally determines whether a signal causes a reaction or not.

Stimulation is the action of various agents or forms of energy (stimuli) on receptors that generate impulses that travel through nerves to the brain (afferents). There are sensory receptors on or near the surface of the body, such as photoreceptors in the retina of the eye, hair cells in the cochlea of the ear, touch receptors in the skin and chemical receptors in the mouth and nasal cavity. There are also sensory receptors in the muscles, joints, digestive tract, and membranes around organs such as the brain, the abdominal cavity, the bladder and the prostate (providing one source of sexual stimulation). Stimulation to the external or internal senses may evoke involuntary activity or guide intentions in action. Such emotional or motivating stimulation typically is also experienced subjectively (enters awareness, is in consciousness). Perception can be regarded as conceptualised stimulation, used in reasoning and intending, for example. When bodily stimulation is perceived it is traditionally called a sensation, such as a kind of touch or a taste or smell, or a painful or pleasurable sensation. This can be thought of as psychological stimulation, which is a stimulus affecting a person's thinking or feeling processes. Sensory Substitution

Stimulus Control Scale (PDF) - Liminal is a stimulus just strong enough to be consciously experienced.

Priming (psychology) is an implicit memory effect in which exposure to one stimulus (i.e., perceptual pattern) influences the response to another stimulus. Power of Disgust (gross)

Desensitization (psychology) is defined as the diminished emotional responsiveness to a negative, aversive or positive stimulus after repeated exposure to it. It also occurs when an emotional response is repeatedly evoked in situations in which the action tendency that is associated with the emotion proves irrelevant or unnecessary. Sensationalism.

Nature, meet nurture. Single-cell analysis reveals diverse landscape of genetic changes in the brain after a sensory experience.

Euphoria is an affective state in which a person experiences pleasure or excitement and intense feelings of well-being and happiness. Certain drugs, many of which are addictive, can cause euphoria, which at least partially motivates their recreational use. Similarly, certain natural rewards and social activities, such as aerobic exercise, laughter, listening to emotionally arousing music, music-making, and dancing, can induce a state of euphoria. Euphoria is also a symptom of certain neurological or neuropsychiatric disorders, such as mania. Romantic love and components of the human sexual response cycle are also associated with the induction of euphoria. According to Kent Berridge, an affective neuroscientist, intense euphoria occurs from the simultaneous activation of every hedonic hotspot within the brain's reward system.

Inhibition - Gambling - Technology Addiction (Intermittent Rewards)

Pathological intoxication refers to an extremely exaggerated response to an intoxicant.

Path of Least Resistance is a survival mechanism of life. Low Entropy

Reward System is a group of neural structures responsible for incentive salience (i.e., "wanting" or desire), pleasure (i.e., "liking" or hedonic value), and positive reinforcement. Reward is the attractive and motivational property of a stimulus that induces appetitive behavior – also known as approach behavior – and consummatory behavior.

Incentive Salience refers to the "wanting" or "desire" attribute given by the brain – specifically, by the nucleus accumbens shell – to a rewarding stimulus. Reward is the attractive and motivational property of a stimulus that induces appetitive behavior – also known as approach behavior – and consummatory behavior.

New Neurons in the Adult Brain are involved in Sensory Learning. Scientists have demonstrated that the new neurons produced in adults react preferentially to reward-related sensory stimuli and help speed up the association between sensory information and reward. Adult-born neurons therefore play an important role in both the identification of a sensory stimulus and the positive value associated with that sensory experience. The neurons generated shortly after birth are unable to perform this function.

Pleasure is not a Measure of Value. Just because you like something that makes you feel good, this doesn't mean that the thing you like is good for you, or good for other people or the world. Finding pleasure in things that are slowly killing you or slowly degrading the world, is a clear sign of a disease. Even though humans have learned to understand a lot of different diseases and have also learned how to control them, humans still have not yet learned how to control and minimize the diseases of the mind. Humans have made incredible advancements in many different areas in technologies and in medicines, but not in education.

Finding Pleasure in things that are known and confirmed to be good for you even when you don't enjoy them, will help you to experience more pleasures in life then ever before. But even then, life still needs balance. So you will still have to experience things that don't give you pleasure, like with some responsibilities. So you have to understand how important certain actions are even if there is no perceived pleasure in doing them. Focus on the known benefits. Try Mixing Exercise with Music or Mixing foods that you do like with Foods that you don't like.

Incentives - Motivation

Appetitive behavior is an activity that increases the likelihood of satisfying a specific need.

Avoidance Conditioning occurs where a subject learns behaviour preventing the occurence of an aversive stimulus.

Approach behavior is a form of behaviour in which an object or person is moved towards, avoidant behavior where there is movement away

Consummatory behavior is a behavior pattern that occurs in response to a stimulus and that achieves the satisfaction of a specific drive.

Positive Reinforcer is a stimulus event for which the animal will work in order to acquire it. Verbal and physical reward is very useful positive reinforcement. Negative Reinforcement or Negative punishment?

Reinforcement is a consequence that will strengthen an organism's future behavior whenever that behavior is preceded by a specific repeated stimulus.

Primary reinforcer is a reinforcer that is not learned; it is "naturally" reinforcing.
Secondary reinforcer or conditioned reinforcer is learned; it is not a stimulus that is naturally reinforcing.
Bridge Reinforcer is learning or training using a sound like a click, whistle or word, which is needed to follow the desired behavior immediately after the behavior occurred (even a delay of a second or two could reduce performance).

Psychological Effects

Affect (psychology) is the experience of feeling or emotion. Affect is a key part of the process of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also refers sometimes to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural behavior that serves as an indicator of affect" (APA 2006). 3 principal dimensions: valence, arousal, and motivational intensity. Emotional valence refers to the emotion’s consequences, emotion-eliciting circumstances, or subjective feelings or attitudes. Arousal is objectively measurable as activation of the sympathetic nervous system, but can also be assessed subjectively via self-report. Arousal is a construct that is closely related to motivational intensity but they differ in that motivation necessarily implies action while arousal does not. Motivational intensity refers to the impulsion to act; the strength of an urge to move toward or away from a stimulus. Simply moving is not considered approach (or avoidance) motivation without a motivational urge present.

Shaping (psychology) is successive approximations, when an existing response is gradually changed across successive trials towards a desired target behavior by rewarding exact segments of behavior.

Valence (psychology) means the intrinsic attractiveness (positive valence) or aversiveness (negative valence) of an event, object, or situation reward versus punishment.

Operant Conditioning is a type of learning in which the strength of a behavior is modified by its consequences, such as reward or punishment, and the behavior is controlled by repeated carefully judged stimuli which come to signal those consequences. (also "instrumental conditioning") Antecedents: A preceding occurrence or cause or event. Preceding in time or order.

Classical Conditioning is a learning process in which an innate response to a potent stimulus comes to be elicited in response to a previously neutral stimulus; Unlearned reflex response (e.g., salivation). This is achieved by repeated pairings of the neutral stimulus with the potent stimulus. (also known as Pavlovian or respondent conditioning).

Synesthesia (senses errors) - Brain Plasticity - Addictions

Extinction is observed in both operantly conditioned and classically conditioned behavior. When operant behavior that has been previously reinforced no longer produces reinforcing consequences the behavior gradually stops occurring. In classical conditioning, when a conditioned stimulus is presented alone, so that it no longer predicts the coming of the unconditioned stimulus, conditioned responding gradually stops. For example, after Pavlov's dog was conditioned to salivate at the sound of a metronome, it eventually stopped salivating to the metronome after the metronome had been sounded repeatedly but no food came. Many anxiety disorders such as posttraumatic stress disorder are believed to reflect, at least in part, a failure to extinguish conditioned Fear.

Event-Related Potential is the measured brain response that is the direct result of a specific sensory, cognitive, or motor event. More formally, it is any stereotyped electrophysiological response to a stimulus. The study of the brain in this way provides a noninvasive means of evaluating brain functioning.

Thumbs Up What are the dangers of getting too much Praise?

Praise refers to positive evaluations made by a person of another's products, performances, or attributes, where the evaluator presumes the validity of the standards on which the evaluation is based. The influence of praise on an individual can depend on many factors, including the context, the meanings the praise may convey, and the characteristics and interpretations of the recipient. Praise is distinct from acknowledgement or feedback, which are more neutral forms of recognition, and encouragement, which is more future oriented. In addition, while praise may share some predictive relationships (both positive and negative) with tangible rewards, praise tends to be less salient and expected, conveys more information about competence, and is typically given more immediately after the desired behavior. Laud is to Praise, glorify, or honor.

"We want to give encouragement to someone, but not if the encouragement causes someone not to become better because they think that they're good. They might not see room for improvement, and thus, not improve or get better when they could if they practice and learn more."

Spoiling a Child can sometimes do more harm then good and end up becoming a form of abuse.

"When children receive special treatment, they could become narcissistic, and they may also believe that they deserve more, and that they are also more superior to others."

What are the dangers too much Fame and Popularity?

Bragging is to speak with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.

Egotistical (self smart)

Envy is when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.

Fear is not a good teaching method, what other methods can help make someone aware of danger without using scare tactics? Fear

You have to know the differences between Reinforcement and Rewarding Someone, there are different effects. What are you reinforcing? Most people have no idea of the dangers that comes from manipulating someone's behavior. Operant Conditioning is something that you need to fully understand, because if you don't, you could easily damage people. 

Grading - Assessments

Trophy Reward is the benefit resulting from some event or action. An act performed to strengthen approved behavior. Some form of payment made in return for a service rendered. To recompense for worthy acts, or retribution for wrongdoing.

Award is a tangible symbol signifying approval or distinction. Something given for victory or winning or superiority in a contest or competition. Give as judged due or on the basis of merit.
Award is something given to a person, a group of people, or an organization to recognize their excellence in a certain field; a certificate of excellence. Awards are often signified by trophies, titles, certificates, commemorative plaques, medals, badges, pins, or ribbons. An award may carry a monetary prize given to the recipient; for example, the Nobel Prize for contributions to society or the Pulitzer Prize for literary achievements. An award may also simply be a public acknowledgment of excellence, without any tangible token or prize of excellence.

Medal is a small, flat, and round (at times, ovoid) piece of metal that has been sculpted, molded, cast, struck, stamped, or some way marked with an insignia, portrait, or other artistic rendering. A medal may be awarded to a person or organization as a form of recognition for sporting, military, scientific, academic, or various other achievements.

Trophy is a artistic crafted object that is a reminder of a specific achievement, and serves as recognition or evidence of merit.

Merit is to be worthy or deserving. Any admirable quality or attribute. The quality of being deserving.

Reinforcement Learning is an area of machine learning inspired by behaviorist psychology, concerned with how software agents ought to take actions in an environment so as to maximize some notion of cumulative reward.

An Upside to Reward Sensitivity: The Hippocampus Supports Enhanced Reinforcement Learning in Adolescence.

Sincere Complements

Performance Appraisal - Performance Review - Performance Evaluation

Constructive feedback is information-specific, issue-focused, and based on observations. It comes in two varieties: Praise and criticism are both personal judgments about a performance effort or outcome, with praise being a favorable judgment and criticism, an unfavorable judgment. You can learn from criticism as long as long as it's not a judgment, only an Observation.

Public Opinion Surveys

Pros and Cons - For or Against - Pluses and Minuses - Positive and Negative Attributes - Good Points and Bad Points
Odds - Good vs Bad - Side by Side Comparison
Opinion - Observation Errors
Research - Decision-Making

There is only so much you can learn from your Experiences.

Building Self-Confidence is not as important as having people understand Inferiority Complex and Impostor Syndrome.

Why telling kids to Dream Big is a big con, but only if you don't explain it correctly.

Prizes and awards are almost becoming insulting and embarrassing these days. We know for a fact that 100's of other accomplishments have happened, so why don't they get the same recognition? Are we commodifying knowledge? Are we putting a price tag on each other's lives using only money? And who in the hell is deciding what is valuable and important?

Should you High Five someone every time they do something you like? Can you High 5 too much? Is High Five Abuse real?

“Good Job” – 2 of the most Harmful Words in the English Language. Not really, but you get the point. And the point is not to give someone a false impression that greatness has been achieved. And you don't necessarily need to push someone to greatness, you need to show someone how to push themselves. And show them that greatness is achieved by putting in the time and the effort. And to remind them that they need to seek out the most valuable knowledge and information that they can find, and seek out the experts to help explain this knowledge and information to them. Good Coaching is extremely valuable, but so is knowing how to coach yourself, train yourself, practice yourself and to teach yourself

Sometimes a nice compliment can be taken the wrong way, and end up causing more harm then good.

Compliment is a remark (or act) expressing praise and admiration.

Everyone wants Recognition and to be given credit when credits due. People also want to be Appreciated, Valued and to be Respected. But people should not rely on these factors when measuring the worth of their actions. People should also not use Medals, Trophies or Awards when measuring their worth. A persons value is measured by their Character, by their Behavior and by how they value other people, and also how they value life and the world in which we live. You need healthy Criticism as well as Rejection if you want to understand the world correctly and also to be prepared for the reality of life. So don't get caught up in your need to be Recognized for that could fill you with a false sense of security, which could have negative impacts on your Personality instead of benefiting you.

Acceptance - Expectation
Repression - Power
Motivation - Morals

Coddling - Protective Instinct

Just because you allow your kids to fail, or give them freedom, this does not mean they will automatically learn the right things from their experiences, they still need guidance, they still need valuable and important knowledge and information about the world and about human life. You don't want them to waste time like you did, or suffer from the same mistakes that you did. But you still need to teach them about those mistakes and about how you wasted time. And tell them how to avoid wasting time and how to avoid making costly mistakes. This means teaching them problem solving, decision making, communication, information literacy and learning, to name just a few.

Effects of maternal investment, temperament, and cognition on guide dog success. More intense mothering early in life was associated with guide dog program failure. But active mothering is still better than no mothering.

Spoilt is to be harmed by pampering or excessive attention.

Indulgence is an inability to resist the gratification of whims and desires. A disposition to yield to the wishes of someone. Foolish or senseless behavior.
Indulging is to give free rein to. Enjoy to excess.

Attentiveness is the trait of being considerate and thoughtful of others. The trait of being observant and paying attention.

is an inclination to favor some person or group. Unfair treatment of a person or group on the basis of prejudice. The practice of giving unfair preferential treatment to one person or group at the expense of another.

Halo Effect is a cognitive bias in which an observer's overall impression of a person, company, brand, or product influences the observer's feelings and thoughts about that entity's character or properties.

Discriminatory is being biased or having a belief or attitude formed beforehand. Containing or implying a slight or showing prejudice. Capable of making fine distinctions. Manifesting partiality.

Prejudice is the influence (somebody's) opinion in advance. A partiality that prevents objective consideration of an issue or situation

is emphasizing or expressing things as perceived without distortion of personal feelings, without bias, without insertion of fictional matter or interpretation. Undistorted by emotion or personal bias. Not to influence in an unfair way.

Partiality is a predisposition to like something. An inclination to favor one group or view or opinion over alternatives.

Praise is to express approval of. An expression of approval and commendation. Offering words of homage as an act of worship.
Acceptance as satisfactory. A message expressing a favorable opinion.

Emotional Freedom Technique Giving Recognition EFT Training (youtube)
Evaluate Personal Attributes

To give someone Props...Props is short for "propers" as in, "proper respect" An act of congratulations, an expression of joy in the success or good fortune of another. An expression of approval and commendation. The act of acknowledging that someone has an occasion for celebration.

kudos is praise and honor received for an achievement. Compliments or congratulations.

Commendation Medal is a mid-level United States military decoration which is presented for sustained acts of heroism or meritorious service.

Don't look at your parents as savors or know it all's, look at your parents as children, children who were never given a chance to grow up, or given a chance to learn as much as they should have. You have to see yourself as the one who must be the adult, you're the one who must keep it together, you're the one that everyone is counting on, you are the one. But don't be overwhelmed by all the responsibilities, keep your life balanced, and keep learning, because valuable information and knowledge will ultimately become your most trusted advisor. Embrace the future.

It really means nothing if you can't say it nicely.
I'm always disappointed in myself when I use Harsh Words and Angry Tones when Communicating. Because I know that it's really not an effective way to communicate. I'm trying to convey an idea, so why do I need emotion? Only babies should scream, I'm an adult now, I can find the words, and so I shall. If you can't communicate true meaning, you're wasting time and offering nothing of value? Information is supposed to be insightful, not confusing.


Is being strict, Overbearing, demanding and giving Tough Love considered forms of abuse?Stand in the Corner

Punishment and Discipline has negative effects on young people. Getting angry with someone because of their ignorance does not help them understand their mistakes, it may make someone aware of a problem, but it does not solve the problem.

Physical Abuse and Punishment impact Children’s academic Performance. A Penn State researcher and her collaborator found that physical abuse was associated with decreases in children’s cognitive performance, while non-abusive forms of physical punishment were independently associated with reduced school engagement and increased peer isolation.

Punishing or Rewarding are ignorant ways to teach or learn, unless of course you are a dog. People who hit dogs and yell at dogs constantly, will most likely do the same with children, which both are crimes of abuse.

Motivation through Punishment may not always work. Parents who scold their children to correct their behavior can have the opposite effect.

Animal Cruelty - Child Abuse - Torture
Prisons and Punishment has negative effects on Society.
Negative Effects of Power and Authority

Spanking is a type of corporal punishment involving the act of striking the buttocks of another person to cause physical pain, and sometimes mental humiliation. Generally done with an open hand (more commonly referred to in some countries as slapping or smacking). More severe forms of spanking, such as switching, paddling, belting, caning, whipping, and birching, involve the use of an implement instead of a hand. Stop Hitting.

Caning is a form of corporal punishment consisting of a number of hits (known as "strokes" or "cuts") with a single cane usually made of rattan, generally applied to the offender's bare or clothed buttocks (see spanking) or hand(s) (on the palm). Caning on the knuckles or shoulders is much less common. Caning can also be applied to the soles of the feet (foot whipping or bastinado). The size and flexibility of the cane and the mode of application, as well as the number of the strokes, vary greatly — from a couple of light strokes with a small cane across the seat of a junior schoolboy's trousers, to 24 very hard, wounding cuts on the bare buttocks with a large, heavy, soaked rattan as a judicial punishment in some Southeast Asian countries.

Discipline Versus Punish to Parent In the Smart Zone (youtube)

Tiger Mother is Child Abuse

Nature versus Nurture relates to the relative importance of an individual's innate qualities ("nature" in the sense of nativism or innatism) as compared to an individual's personal experiences ("nurture" in the sense of empiricism or behaviorism) in causing individual differences, especially in behavioral traits.

The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties, according to a new meta-analysis of 50 years of research on spanking by experts at the University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan.

Journal of Family Psychology

Corporal Punishment (prisons)

We restrict people when we are not educated enough to give them good directions. I'm not saying that discipline should never be used, I'm just saying if that's all you use is punishment, then you are condemning yourself to have to repeat the punishment, and also deal with all the side effects that come from abuse.

Adolescence and Parental Favoritism

Triple P: Positive Parenting Program is a parenting intervention with the main goals of increasing the knowledge, skills, and confidence of parents and reducing the prevalence of mental health, emotional, and behavioral problems in children and adolescents. The program was originally specifically tailored for at risk children and parents, but there are now different levels of Triple P designed to work together as a broad, universal, public health approach. This program is based on principles of community psychology.

Paying Attention without Spoiling

Shame (regret)
Confidence vs. Ego
Child Development

Contingent Reinforcement Use (ehow)
Learning Methods

When you discipline a child about something that you perceive to be wrong or bad, don't forget to discipline yourself in learning the current facts about all the dangers in this world. If you are going to educate your child about the dangers of drug abuse, don't forget to mention all the drugs in all their forms, including foods, because poor nutrition kills more people and cost billions of dollars more in healthcare costs then all drugs combined.

A person who makes bad decisions and bad choices is not necessarily a Bad Person. Some people are just really Complicated and sometimes just a little Confused. Mostly because of their upbringing and how they were raised and how they were educated. There are many things that happens in a persons life that can cause a persons Perception to be altered and changed. Sometimes theses changes in a persons Perception are good and sometimes they are bad. What ever it is, some people will always need more patience and more understanding then usual.


Hollywood Star Sometimes Celebrity Attention is a lot easier when it's just a Fantasy. Be careful what you wish for. Popularity has its dangers.

If too much attention can make you dysfunctional, and not enough Attention can make you dysfunctional, then what is the correct amount of Adoration a person should have? Can you still be alienated or isolated even when you have lots of friends?

Ego-Big Headed - Over Confidence

What's the difference between being popular and being famous? Not all famous people are popular, and not all popular people are famous. Journalists

Not all people who do great things become famous or popular. So many seemingly little things that average people do never get the recognition they deserve. People need to understand that value is not measured by fame or popularity. History

Performance Artist is a performance presented to an audience within a fine art context, traditionally interdisciplinary. Performance may be either scripted or unscripted, random or carefully orchestrated; spontaneous or otherwise carefully planned with or without audience participation. The performance can be live or via media; the performer can be present or absent. It can be any situation that involves four basic elements: time, space, the performer's body, or presence in a medium, and a relationship between performer and audience. Performance art can happen anywhere, in any type of venue or setting and for any length of time. The actions of an individual or a group at a particular place and in a particular time constitute the work.

Celebrity refers to the fame and public attention accorded by the media to individuals or groups or, occasionally, animals, but is usually applied to the persons or groups of people (celebrity couples, families, etc.) themselves who receive such a status of fame and attention. Celebrity status is often associated with wealth (commonly referred to as fame and fortune), while fame often provides opportunities to make money.

Stresses of Being a Celebrity (PDF)

Fad is any form of collective behavior that develops within a culture, a generation or social group and which impulse is followed enthusiastically by a group of people for a finite period of time. Similar to habits or customs but less durable, fads often result from an activity or behavior being perceived as emotionally popular or exciting within a peer group or being deemed "cool" as often promoted by social networks. A fad is said to "catch on" when the number of people adopting it begins to increase to the point of being noteworthy. Fads often fade quickly when the perception of novelty is gone.

Power - the influences of power and how it controls.

Social Status - Too Much Praise


Popularity is not an accurate measurement of how valuable something is or how truthful something is. Popularity is not a measurement of how important someone is, or how important some thing is, especially knowing that you can easily be fooled when information is skewed. The TV lies and misleads, so you need to be careful. The assumption that likes, retweets, or views indicate value is a vulnerability of an undereducated mind. Don't use popularity as your only measurement to determine how true or how important something is. Don't conform, don't get addicted, and never stop learning.

Psychology of the Like Button, the dopamine feedback loop. The like button can boost your ego or shatter your ego.

Is the like button a vote for something? And do you understand what you're voting for? Our Social Networks Need an Upgrade.

Argumentum ad Populum is assuming something is true because many or most people believe it: "If many believe so, it is so."

Popular is being liked, admired, or enjoyed by many people or by a particular person or group. Regarded with great favor, approval, or affection especially by the general public. But popular is not a measurement of Value.

Popularity is the quality of being widely admired or accepted or sought after.

Attention Seeking is behaving in a way which is in pursuit of attention from others. The attention they receive gives them a good feeling and boosts their self-esteem and self-worth. Where such behavior is excessive and inappropriate, the term is often used pejoratively in regard to children's behavior in front of peers or to negative domestic interactions.

Adoration is respect, reverence, strong admiration or devotion in a certain person, place, or thing. The term comes from the Latin adōrātiō, meaning "to give homage or worship to someone or something".

Spotlight Effect happens when we think other people are noticing us much more than they actually are. We feel that others evaluate our appearance and behavior intensely, when often it’s not true at all.

Halo Effect occurs when we let a single personality trait spill over so that it influences our overall perception of a person. In other words, traits in one area affect our general view. Don't judge a book by its cover.

Bandwagon Effect is having a tendency to prefer what’s popular. It’s easy to conform to popular ideas without checking the evidence, especially when we get our information from others.

Contrarian is a person who opposes or rejects popular opinion, going against current practice. Critical Thinking.

Contrary is very opposed in nature or character or purpose. Of words or propositions so related that both cannot be true but both may be false. Contradiction

Conformity - Naive (gullible) - Social Influences

Three Men make a Tiger refers to an individual's tendency to accept absurd information as long as it is repeated by enough people.

Urban Legend is a form of modern folklore consisting of fictional stories, often with macabre elements deeply rooted in local popular culture.

Consensus Reality is that which is generally agreed to be reality, based on a consensus view.

Group Decisions

Argument from Authority is a common type of argument which can be fallacious, such as when an authority is cited on a topic outside their area of expertise or when the authority cited is not a true expert.

Truth by Consensus is the process of taking statements to be true simply because people generally agree upon them.

Consensus Theory of Truth is the process of taking statements to be true simply because people generally agree upon them.

False-Consensus Effect is an attributional type of cognitive bias whereby people tend to overestimate the extent to which their opinions, beliefs, preferences, values, and habits are normal and typical of those of others (i.e., that others also think the same way that they do). This cognitive bias tends to lead to the perception of a consensus that does not exist, a "false consensus".

Fundamental Attribution Error is the tendency for people to place an undue emphasis on internal characteristics of the agent (character or intention), rather than external factors, in explaining another person's behavior in a given situation. This contrasts with interpreting one's own behavior, where situational factors are more easily recognized and can be taken into account.

Validity (confirming accuracy)

Social Proof is a psychological phenomenon where people assume the actions of others in an attempt to reflect correct behavior for a given situation. This effect is prominent in ambiguous social situations where people are unable to determine the appropriate mode of behavior, and is driven by the assumption that surrounding people possess more knowledge about the situation.

Groupthink (social influences) - Stereotypes.

Just because you have a Fan Base or have people interested in what you can provide for them, this should not be a reason for you to do something. Just like money should not be a reason to do something. What you do should be defined by purpose and need. And the value you provide should be measurable with a clear understanding of the cause and effects of your actions. When people egg you on, it's not because you're popular, it's mostly because they would rather transfer the risk and the work on to you in the form of entertainment, this way your fans can live through you vicariously. But entertainers should not excuse people from having their own life. We need to separate these worlds so that the line that separates them never becomes blurred or undefined. Entertainment is great, and it's a great way to express ourselves, but we can't allow ourselves to slip into a quasi reality, because when we do, Reality will slowly deteriorate to a point where neither reality or Fantasy could survive, you would become lost in a dream and forever in a coma. If you want real entertainment, reality and knowledge has more entertainment then any other art form, it's limitless, it's mind-blowing, and it's wonderful. Try it Mikey, you'll like it.

Famous is something or someone widely known and esteemed. But being famous is not a measurement of Value. But who made them famous?

Fame - Irene Cara (youtube)

Media Literacy
Body Image - Self-Smart
What is Success?

idol is someone who is adored blindly and excessively. Worship

Over Confidence can be Dangerous

Everyone will experience fame and power to a certain degree and level sometime during their life. We need to teach about the effects that power and fame has on the mind, and how it can control our behavior and also warp our view of ourselves and our view of the world. We also need to teach the effects of rejection and paranoia.

"You don't have to experience things the exact same way as others do in order to learn from them or benefit from them. You just need to understand the lessons and the purposes of these lessons. You don't need to be a professional basketball player in order to understand the game or enjoy the game. You just need to be aware of the skills and the knowledge that is gained from these types of interactions. The skill level in which you achieve in a particular sport, or in a particular art, is not as important as your level of understanding. What's the point at being great at something if you never become a great person."

"Don't worry about people knowing you, just make yourself worth knowing."

"Everyone wants to be Loved, Admired and Appreciated, it's an amazing and beautiful feeling that is soothing to the soul. It's a confirmation that says that you are good enough to be loved, that you are worthy, and that you are special. But there is a risk because you could accidentally create a False Sense of Security. And when it comes to Human Emotions, and their vulnerabilities, we have to be very careful that we don't allow ourselves to be consumed or manipulated to a point where we lose total awareness of ourselves. Some people even have a tendency to stop maturing and become content with what they know. And if you stop learning and growing, you will sacrifice your potential and end up finding yourself lost. But don't worry, it's happens to a lot of people, learn from it and move on, the ride is far from over."

Stay True to Yourself

In those unique moments when you have to make a decision, don't abandon everything that you have learned,  and don't throw away everything close to you, like family and friends. If this is something that you would not normally do, or if this is something that goes against your good judgment or contradicts your beliefs, then this is something that needs to stay true to yourself. But in those moments when you go against everything that you believe in, and everything that you know, you better have a good reason, because those are the kind of mistakes that are the most painful and the most dangerous.

I love watching documentaries about bands who became really famous
. I love how it shows that most people just start out with simple and normal lives. And then one day their abilities come in line with an opportunity of a life time, and just by chance their lives are changed forever. Of course these documentaries never show a complete story, these are only a few particular moments in a persons life, so we have no idea who they are, or who they could have been if their lives would have been different. I myself think it's better to dream about these experiences then to have them come true. Because I would hate to live a dream that I was unable to wake up from, that would suck. But of course you don't have to be famous to be at that crossroad like that, because everyone has to make decisions. And what ever those decisions were, or how bad some of those decisions were, you have to find a way to live through those decisions no matter what, because you are here for a reason, so you have to find that reason, because it may not find you. If you're not looking for it, you may never find it. But be careful where you look, if you're not looking in the right places at the right time, you may find more trouble then success. Remember, life is a double edge sword, but it's your sword, so being dull on one side might be a little safer. But this is your life, not mine.

A to Zeplin the story of Led Zeplin 2004 - This insightful documentary chronicles the band's history from their 1968 formation to their reign as 1970s hard-rock giants through rare photographs, archival footage, and interviews with both the band members and those who worked with them. Aired: 06/08/2004 |  55 min. - Led Zeplin (wiki)

Kurt and Courtney (1998) - Beginning as an observation of the music of Kurt Cobain and his Seattle/Portland contemporaries, Kurt and Courtney took a different turn when Courtney Love intervened. Directed by Nick Broomfield. Aired: 02/28/1998 | 1 hr. 35 min.


"I don't want fame, I don't want to be popular, I don't want a lot of money, I just want to make a positive difference in peoples lives and make a positive difference to the planet that we all share. I would rather be like everyone else. Ambiguously blending in with all the people around me without unneeded attention or unwarranted distractions. I want to Live a respectable life and to fall in love. Of course there is more to life, but we shouldn't let the details of our responsibilities diminish our lives or cloud us from the miracle of life itself. We have a job to do, but we also have a life to live. For now I'm anonymously saving the world, like millions have done in the past, and like the millions who are presently saving the world today. I seek no glory because the reward is the preservation of life, and ending the burden of life that millions of people suffer from that are the result of ignorant people. An ignorant mind is its own worst enemy. And the ignorant minds of the so called educated and wealthy are the most damaging enemy of innocent people all around the world.  "I understand the admiration, I have it too for others. Just don't let your admiration blind you from knowing how incredible you are. I admire you, and you admire me, we admire each other, we admire the world, so admiration is OK, just don't forget we are all in this together."

The Thinker Man