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Self Smart - Intrapersonal Intelligence

Self Smart entails the capacity to understand oneself, to understand one’s feelings, fears and motivations.

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Awareness of one’s Abilities and Goals. Sense of well-being and Development.

Self Realization is defined as the "fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one's character or personality."

Self Knowledge - Emotional Intelligence - Intrinsic Education

People Smart and Self Smart are closely Related. 

Learning from Mistakes and Failures. Talking effectively and moderating our responses. Empathizing accurately.

Core Self-Evaluations represent a stable personality trait which encompasses an individual's subconscious, fundamental evaluations about themselves, their own abilities and their own control. People who have high core self-evaluations will think
positively of themselves and be confident in their own abilities. Conversely, people with low core self-evaluations will have a negative appraisal of themselves and will lack confidence.

Self-knowledge (psychology) describes the information that an individual draws upon when finding an answer to the question "What am I like?". While seeking to develop the answer to this question, self-knowledge requires ongoing self-awareness and self-consciousness (which is not to be confused with consciousness). Young infants and chimpanzees display some of the traits of self-awareness and agency/contingency, yet they are not considered as also having self-consciousness. At some greater level of cognition, however, a self-conscious component emerges in addition to an increased self-awareness component, and then it becomes possible to ask "What am I like?", and to answer with self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is a component of the self, or more accurately, the self-concept. It is the knowledge of one's self and one's properties and the desire to seek such knowledge that guide the development of the self-concept. Self-knowledge informs us of our mental representations of ourselves, which contain attributes that we uniquely pair with ourselves, and theories on whether these attributes are stable, or dynamic.

Discovering Psychology (videos) 
Frontier Psychiatrist
Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality, Brian Little: (video and interactive text)

Psychosocial Development (Maturity)
Psychology of Self is the study of either the cognitive, conative or affective representation of one's identity or the subject of experience.
Developmental Psychology
The Power of Now
Life Skills - 21st Century Skills
Moral Development

Self-Determination Theory (wiki)
Self Actualization is the motive to realize one's full potential in the pursuit of knowledge.
Self Actualization (youtube)
Inner Monologue

Self-Awareness allows you to assess situations objectively and rationally, without acting on biases and stereotypes.
Practice self-evaluation and reflection and keep a journal to track your progress. Self-improvement only happens once you recognize your vulnerabilities. Pay attention to the way you respond to your successes and failures. Practice saying “No” to yourself.

SWOT Analysis

Psychological Self Help
Self Psychology
Observation Flaws


OCEAN: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism, which is when you can't really explain yourself.

Openness to Experience has six facets, or dimensions, including active imagination (fantasy), aesthetic sensitivity, attentiveness to inner feelings, preference for variety, and intellectual curiosity.

Idiosyncrasy is an unusual feature of a person. It also means odd habit. The term is often used to express eccentricity or peculiarity.

Personality Development: Being free to develop your own personality is extremely important.

Personal Development covers activities that improve self-awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, improving skills or learning new ones, improving self-knowledge, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations, improving social abilities, building or renewing identity/self-esteem, improving health, improving wealth and value, Personal development takes place over the course of a person's entire life.

Be yourself, but how do you know that you are truly being honest?  "Don't Fake it ’til you make it."

Personality Insights on about 50 Different Traits
Myers Briggs Type Indicator
Authenticity Philosophy true to one's own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures. 
Dalai Lama Personality Test
Dating Questions

All personality tests invite a bit of self-deception, for it's deception that legitimates the test. Personality Tests are too General and too Vague. You have to define the circumstances. 

"There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were."


Why are children in the same family so different from one another?
Siblings Share Genes, But Rarely Personalities
How can people be different when they grow up in the same environment?
Personality Research

Everyone is born with their own personality characteristics. So where do they come from? Do they some how form in our mothers womb? Or do they form based on that babies particular experiences, and its interpretation of those particular experiences.

Personality is not fixed, behavior is not fixed, even human nature is not 100% fixed, everyone can adapt and change behaviors if needed, the brain is plastic, it has to be in order to adapt to new environments and to evolve. When we learn more about ourselves and our world, we change and improve, as we have since the beginning. It's amazing what learning can do, especially learning the right things in the right way and at the right times.

We have to be extremely careful with labels, especially the labels we give to ourselves.

Are personalities some type of hereditary trait? Or maybe our personalities are some kind of an evolutionary adaptation in the DNA that causes each of us to have unique personalities so that it would guarantee the survival of our species, because different personalities sometimes do different things. But It doesn't mean that your personality will always stay completely the same.
Or does it mean that you will never understand your personality. Or does it mean that you will never learn how to modify, change or control your personality. Your personality is not a hard wired program, it's software. And software can be updated. Plasticity

Everyone has distinct personality traits. And we sometimes process things differently. But shouldn't our processes be similar if we all learned similar things and have similar goals? Is it just that some people take a different approach to things? You would still have to be aware of your approach to a problem and be able to compare the differences between yours and someone else's approach to a problem. Someone just saying " I'm shy " does not explain the reason why that person did not take a particular action. Shyness should not be a factor in your decision making. Only knowledge, information and experience should be used in decision making, not your personal perception of what shyness is. You shouldn't apply shyness to problem solving. Shyness is not the only reason why you do things or don't do things, there are many reasons why, so what are they? I didn't do it because I was doing something else, or I knew that it was not necessary or relevant so I did something else, or I had other ideas, or I did not feel good and was not up to the task. There are many reasons, and the more reasons that you are aware of, the more you can understand your actions. It's how you process the world, and how you output that information, which can have unique circumstances that require unique actions, so don't worry about mistakes or misunderstandings, learning is a lifelong journey.

"When no one is there to explain things to you, or explain how to perceive and understand things, then you will understand them in your own unique way." 

Learning Methods
Self-Directed Learning

Dissociative Identity Disorder or multiple personality disorder, is a mental disorder characterized by at least two distinct and relatively enduring identities or dissociated personality states that alternately show in a person's behavior, accompanied by memory impairment for important information not explained by ordinary forgetfulness.

Who Am I ?

Being Yourself

Being yourself and feeling comfortable around Friends and family is nice. But sometimes when you can act any way you want with friends, you don't always listen to your friends the way you should. You're so comfortable with being yourself that you sometimes feel that you're by yourself, and you end up not paying attention to the people you care about. And the scary part is, if everyone is doing this, then nobody is really paying attention to anyone, it's like everyone is in their own little world. We need to learn to balance our internal listening with our external listening. One cannot exist without the other. Make it a point in every interaction that you have with someone, to just listen. Take a moment every so often and just Listen to the external world. There is a lot of communication going on in the world that we are not paying attention to. We need to connect, and we need to connect more often.  Expand Your Mind

Internalization describes the psychological outcome of a conscious mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and the consideration of the subject is internal.

I Don't Want To Be anything other then me - Gavin DeGraw (youtube)

Act natural, what's natural?  Act normal, what's normal?

Social Influences

Finding Yourself

Being yourself is not easy, especially when you're always learning and maturing. So how can you be yourself when yourself is still undefined? How can you be yourself when being yourself is a lie? Because being yourself is not who you are when you're still learning and growing. But this is not to say that there's always parts of yourself that never seem to fade, a part of your personality that you either enjoy, or have adapted too, or have excepted. This does not mean that you can't control your personality, it's more like you have grown accustom to it, like a habit. But it's hard to control something that you are not always aware of, and that is the key, Awareness. Awareness needs to have a system check, a default program, a series of questions that make you aware that you are out of your zone and in a situation that requires different processes and a different understanding, where you need to put your Ego on hold. You may feel obliged or obligated to do things with your friends, but that does not mean sacrifice, it should only mean a temporary change of plans, and not a reason to be stupid or disrespectable towards yourself or others. And this change has to feel natural, you want to be flexible, but not to the point of breaking. You don't want to do ignorant actions just to fit in, but you don't want to ignore Adventure or a chance to explore, unless you feel there's a better time and place, so don't be afraid to stop, but also don't feel pressured either, ask questions. And if you can't get the answers that you need, then wait till the answers are available. This is the only time does not mean that this is your only choice or option.

Breaking Character occurs when an actor ceases to maintain the illusion that they are identical with the character they are
portraying. If the breaking of character is particularly serious, it is considered corpsing, which is theatrical slang for unintentionally breaking character by laughing.
Being Serious is speaking sincerely with truthful accuracy, requiring effort or concentration, rather than in a joking or halfhearted manner.

"Being comfortable around someone does not mean that you have the right to fart any time you want, you should have more self-control as well as a little more respect, otherwise a friendship could get pretty ugly. Every friendship should have some sort of written ground rules or a written agreement that keeps the friendship from disintegrating into total chaos, like the friendships between most men do, it gets crazy."

"Not all my friends are your friends, and not all your friends are my friends, only two thing's are for sure, you are my friend and I am you're friend."

Disposition is your usual mood. A natural or acquired habit or characteristic tendency in a person or thing. An attitude of mind especially one that favors one alternative over others.
Complex (psychology) is a core pattern of emotions, memories, perceptions, and wishes in the personal unconscious organized around a common theme, such as power or status.
Mannerism is a behavioral attribute that is distinctive and peculiar to an individual. A habitual gesture or way of speaking or behaving; an idiosyncrasy, whcih is an unusual feature of a person like an odd habit or a strange attitude.

Authenticity is when one is true to one's own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures; the conscious self is seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with encountering external forces, pressures, and influences which are very different from, and other than, itself. A lack of authenticity is considered in existentialism to be bad faith

Charisma is compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others, or a divinely conferred power or talent.
Personality - Mannerism

"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self."  - Ernest Hemingway

Robert Sapolsky: Are Humans Just Another Primate? (youtube)
Notes to Myself: My Struggle to Become a Person (amazon book)

Qualities and Skills of a Worker

Communication Skills

Education Improvements Ideas

"You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now."

"When you stop doing the wrong things you give yourself a chance to do the right things."

"There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."

Borderline Personality Disorder, or people who have become aware of how screwed up the world is.


Perjury is the offense of willfully telling an untruth in a court after having taken an oath or affirmation. Intentional act of swearing a false oath or of falsifying an affirmation to tell the truth.
Sworn Testimony

Oath is to swear (announce publicly or officially and promise not to Lie) that the evidence that I shall give, shall be the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God.
Affirmation in Law is a solemn declaration allowed to those who conscientiously object to taking an oath.
Oath a statement of fact or a promise with wording relating to something considered sacred as a sign of verity.

Kari Faux, 'Lie 2 My Face' (youtube)

Oh, what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive!

Detect Lies (youtube)
Pamela Meyer: How to Spot a Liar (youtube)
Can you really tell if a kid is lying? (video and interactive text)
The language of lying - Noah Zandan (youtube)
People tend to lie more when they are tired. 
People with Mental Health Problems tend to lie more  
Ignorant people tend to lie more, which is mostly because the truth is not easily understood or explained accurately, so it is not really lying, it's more of an inability to accurately explain the facts.
Lies are more convincing when the person telling them needs to urinate.
The Truth About Lie Detectors (aka Polygraph Tests) to detect a person's veracity by monitoring psychophysiological changes is more myth than reality. Even the term "lie detector," used to refer to polygraph testing, is a misnomer. So-called "lie detection" involves inferring deception through analysis of physiological responses to a structured, but unstandardized, series of questions.  Observation Flaws
There this thing about reading people. The truth of the matter can not be totally confirmed, it does not reveal truth. That person is nervous, does not say why they are nervous. And the person might not know why their nervous themselves. So are you
helping them, or are you judging them?


Egotism is the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself, and generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social and other overestimations. Me, Me, Me
Egocentrism is the inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from objective reality; an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.

Egomania is also known as an obsessive preoccupation with one's self and applies to someone who follows their own ungoverned impulses and is possessed by delusions of personal greatness and feels a lack of appreciation.

Pretentious is intending to attract notice and impress others. Making claim to or creating an appearance of (often undeserved) importance or distinction.
Compensation is a defense mechanism that conceals your undesirable shortcomings by exaggerating desirable behaviors.

Self-Centered is the inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from objective reality; an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own. Egocentrism

Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Conceited, is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others' feelings. People affected by it often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around them. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.

Psychological Egoism is the view that humans are always motivated by Self-interest, even in what seem to be acts of altruism. It claims that, when people choose to help others, they do so ultimately because of the personal benefits that they themselves expect to obtain, directly or indirectly, from doing so.

Vanity is the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others. Pride

Id, Ego and Super-Ego, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego. The super-ego can stop one from doing certain things that one's id may want to do.

Alter Ego is a second self, which is believed to be distinct from a person's normal or original personality. A person who has an alter ego is said to lead a double life. Two-Faced
False Ego "True Self" to describe a sense of self based on spontaneous authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a "real self". The Imaginary
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.

Defense Mechanism is an unconscious psychological mechanism that reduces anxiety arising from unacceptable or potentially harmful stimuli. Praise
Psychological Projection in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting.
Regression is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more adult way.

Grandiose Delusions is characterized by fantastical beliefs that one is famous, omnipotent, wealthy, or otherwise very powerful. God Complex is an unshakable belief characterized by consistently inflated feelings of personal ability, privilege, or infallibility. A person with a god complex may refuse to admit the possibility of their error or failure, even in the face of irrefutable evidence, intractable problems or difficult or impossible tasks. The person is also highly dogmatic in their views, meaning the person speaks of their personal opinions as though they are unquestionably correct. Someone with a god complex may exhibit no regard for the conventions and demands of society, and may request special consideration or privileges.

Decadence is a perceived decay in standards, morals, dignity, religious faith, or skill at governing among the members of the elite of a very large social structure, such as an empire or nation state. By extension, it may refer to a decline in art, literature, science, technology, and work ethics, or (very loosely) to self-indulgent behaviour.

Inner Dialog

The Thinker Man