Self Smart - Intrapersonal Intelligence
Self Smart entails the capacity to understand oneself, to understand one’s
feelings, fears and motivations.
. Sense of well-being and Development.
is defined as the "fulfillment by oneself
of the possibilities of one's character or personality."
- Intrinsic Education
and Self Smart
are closely Related.
moderating our responses. Empathizing
represent a stable personality trait which
encompasses an individual's subconscious, fundamental evaluations about
themselves, their own abilities and their own control. People who have
high core self-evaluations will think
positively of themselves and be
confident in their own abilities. Conversely, people with low core
self-evaluations will have a negative appraisal of themselves and will
describes the information that an
individual draws upon when finding an answer to the question "What am I
like?". While seeking to develop the answer to this question,
self-knowledge requires ongoing self-awareness and self-consciousness
(which is not to be confused with consciousness). Young infants and
chimpanzees display some of the traits of self-awareness and
agency/contingency, yet they are not considered as also having
self-consciousness. At some greater level of cognition, however, a
self-conscious component emerges in addition to an increased
self-awareness component, and then it becomes possible to ask "What
am I like?
", and to answer with self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is a
component of the self, or more accurately, the self-concept. It is the
knowledge of one's self and one's properties and the desire to seek such
knowledge that guide the development of the self-concept. Self-knowledge
informs us of our mental representations of ourselves, which contain
attributes that we uniquely pair with ourselves, and theories on whether
these attributes are stable, or dynamic.
Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality, Brian Little:
and interactive text)
Psychology of Self
is the study of either the cognitive, conative or
affective representation of one's identity
subject of experience.
Power of Now
- 21st Century Skills
the motive to realize one's full potential in the pursuit of knowledge.
allows you to assess
acting on biases
Practice self-evaluation and reflection and keep a journal to track your
progress. Self-improvement only happens once you recognize your
vulnerabilities. Pay attention to the way you respond to your
Practice saying “No” to yourself.SWOT
Psychological Self Help
Self PsychologyObservation Flaws
penness to experience,
euroticism, which is when you can't really explain yourself.
has six facets, or dimensions, including active imagination
(fantasy), aesthetic sensitivity, attentiveness to inner feelings,
preference for variety, and
is an unusual feature of a person. It also means odd
. The term is often used to express eccentricity or peculiarity.
: Being free to develop your own
personality is extremely important.
covers activities that improve
, develop talents and
human capital and facilitate
improving skills or learning new ones, improving
, enhance the
quality of life
and contribute to the realization of dreams and
building or renewing identity/self-esteem, improving
Personal development takes place over the course of a person's entire
but how do you know that you are
? "Don't Fake it
’til you make it."
Personality Insights on about 50 Different Traits
Myers Briggs Type Indicator
true to one's own personality,
spirit, or character, despite external pressures.
Dalai Lama Personality Test
All personality tests invite a bit of self-deception, for it's
deception that legitimates the test.
Personality Tests are too General and too
Vague. You have to define the circumstances.
"There isn’t anything noble about being
superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior
to the person you once were."
Why are children in the same family so different from one
Siblings Share Genes, But Rarely Personalities
How can people be different when they grow up in the same
Everyone is born with their own
. So where do they come from? Do
they some how form in our
? Or do they form based on
that babies particular experiences, and its interpretation of
those particular experiences.
Personality is not fixed,
fixed, even human nature
100% fixed, everyone can adapt and change behaviors if needed, the
brain is plastic
, it has
to be in order to adapt to new environments and to evolve. When we learn
more about ourselves and our world, we change and improve, as we have
since the beginning. It's
amazing what learning can do
, especially learning
the right things in the right way
at the right times.
We have to be extremely careful with
, especially the
labels we give to ourselves.
Are personalities some type of hereditary trait? Or maybe our
personalities are some kind of an evolutionary adaptation in the
DNA that causes each of us to have unique personalities so that
it would guarantee the survival of our species, because
different personalities sometimes do different things. But It
doesn't mean that your personality will always stay completely
Or does it mean that you will never understand your personality.
Or does it mean that you will never learn how to modify, change
or control your personality. Your personality is not a hard
wired program, it's software. And
can be updated.
Everyone has distinct personality traits. And we sometimes
process things differently. But shouldn't our processes be
similar if we all learned similar things and have similar goals?
Is it just that some people take a different approach to things?
You would still have to be aware of your approach to a problem
and be able to compare the differences between yours and someone
else's approach to a problem. Someone just saying " I'm shy "
does not explain the reason why that person did not take a
should not be a factor in your
. Only knowledge, information and experience
should be used in decision making, not your personal perception
of what shyness is. You shouldn't apply shyness to problem
Shyness is not the only reason why you do things or don't do
things, there are many reasons why, so what are they? I didn't do it
because I was doing something else, or I knew that it was not necessary or
relevant so I did something else, or I had other ideas, or I did not feel
good and was not up to the task. There are many reasons, and the more
reasons that you are aware of, the more you can understand your actions.
It's how you process the world, and how you output that information, which
can have unique circumstances that require unique actions, so don't worry
or misunderstandings, learning is a lifelong journey.
"When no one is there to explain things to you, or explain how
to perceive and understand things, then you will understand them in your
own unique way."
Dissociative Identity Disorder
or multiple personality disorder, is a
mental disorder characterized by at least two distinct and relatively
enduring identities or dissociated personality states that alternately
show in a person's behavior, accompanied by memory impairment for
important information not explained by ordinary forgetfulness.
Who Am I ?
Being yourself and feeling
comfortable around Friends
and family is nice. But sometimes when you can act any way you
want with friends, you don't always listen to your friends the
way you should. You're so comfortable with being yourself that
you sometimes feel that
you're by yourself
, and you end up not
paying attention to the people you care about. And the scary
part is, if everyone is doing this, then nobody is really paying
attention to anyone, it's like everyone is in their own little
. We need to learn to balance our
. One cannot exist without the other. Make
it a point in every interaction that you have with someone, to
just listen. Take a moment every so often and just
external world. There is a lot of communication going on in the
world that we are not paying attention to. We need to connect,
and we need to
Expand Your Mind
describes the psychological outcome of a conscious
mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and
the consideration of the subject is internal.I
Don't Want To Be anything other then me - Gavin DeGraw
Act natural, what's natural? Act
normal, what's normal?
Being yourself is not easy, especially when you're always
learning and maturing. So how can you be yourself when yourself
is still undefined? How can you be yourself when being yourself
is a lie? Because being yourself is not who you are when you're
still learning and growing. But this is not to say that there's
always parts of yourself that never seem to fade, a part of
that you either enjoy, or have adapted too, or have excepted.
This does not mean that you can't control your personality, it's
more like you have grown accustom to it, like a habit. But it's
hard to control something that you are not always aware of, and
that is the key,
. Awareness needs to have a
, a default program, a series of questions that make
you aware that you are out of your zone and in a situation that
requires different processes and a different understanding,
where you need to put your
on hold. You may feel obliged or obligated to do things
with your friends, but that does not mean sacrifice, it should
only mean a temporary change of plans, and not a reason to be
stupid or disrespectable towards yourself or others. And this
change has to feel natural, you want to be flexible, but not to
the point of breaking. You don't want to do ignorant actions
just to fit in, but you don't want to ignore
or a chance to explore, unless you feel there's a
better time and place, so don't be afraid to stop, but also
don't feel pressured either, ask questions. And if you can't get
the answers that you need, then wait till the answers are
available. This is the only time does not mean that this is your
only choice or option.
occurs when an actor ceases to maintain the
illusion that they are identical with the character they are
portraying. If the breaking of character is particularly serious, it is
considered corpsing, which is theatrical slang for unintentionally
breaking character by laughing.
is speaking sincerely with truthful accuracy, requiring effort or
concentration, rather than in a joking or halfhearted manner.
"Being comfortable around someone does not
mean that you have the right to
time you want, you should have more self-control as well as a
little more respect, otherwise a
could get pretty
ugly. Every friendship should have some sort of written
that keeps the friendship from
disintegrating into total chaos, like the friendships between
most men do, it gets crazy."
"Not all my friends are your friends, and
not all your friends
are my friends, only two thing's are for
sure, you are my friend and I am you're friend."
is your usual mood. A natural or acquired habit or characteristic
tendency in a person or thing.
An attitude of mind especially one
that favors one alternative over others.
is a core pattern of emotions, memories,
perceptions, and wishes in the personal
organized around a
common theme, such as power or status.
is a behavioral attribute that is distinctive and peculiar to an
individual. A habitual gesture or way of speaking or behaving;
, whcih is an unusual feature of a person like
an odd habit or a strange attitude.
is when one is true to one's own personality,
spirit, or character, despite external pressures; the conscious self is
seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with
encountering external forces, pressures, and influences which are very
different from, and other than, itself. A lack of authenticity is
considered in existentialism to be bad faith
is compelling attractiveness or charm that can
inspire devotion in others, or a divinely conferred power or talent.
"There is nothing noble
in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to
your former self." -
Sapolsky: Are Humans Just Another Primate?
to Myself: My Struggle to Become a Person
and Skills of a Worker
Education Improvements Ideas
will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming
everyone else for who you are now."
you stop doing the wrong things you give yourself a chance to do
the right things."
isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True
nobility is in being superior to the person you once were.
Trying to be someone else is a waste of
the person you are
Borderline Personality Disorder
, or people who have become
aware of how screwed up the world is.
is the offense
of willfully telling an untruth in a court after having taken an oath or
affirmation. Intentional act of swearing a false
falsifying an affirmation to tell the
is to swear
(announce publicly or officially and promise not to Lie
that I shall give, shall be the truth, the whole truth and
nothing but the truth
, so help me God.
Affirmation in Law
is a solemn declaration allowed to those who
conscientiously object to
taking an oath
statement of fact or a promise with wording relating to something
considered sacred as a sign of verity.
Kari Faux, 'Lie 2
what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive!
Pamela Meyer: How to Spot
Can you really tell if a kid is lying?
(video and interactive text)
language of lying - Noah Zandan
People tend to lie more when they are
People with Mental Health Problems tend to lie more
Ignorant people tend to lie more
, which is mostly because
is not easily understood or explained accurately, so it is not
really lying, it's more of an inability to accurately explain
Lies are more convincing when the person telling them needs to
The Truth About Lie Detectors (aka Polygraph Tests)
to detect a
person's veracity by monitoring psychophysiological changes is more myth
than reality. Even the term "lie
," used to refer to polygraph testing, is a misnomer.
So-called "lie detection" involves inferring deception through analysis of
physiological responses to a structured, but unstandardized, series of
questions. Observation Flaws
There this thing about reading people. The truth of the matter can not be
totally confirmed, it does not reveal truth. That person is nervous, does
not say why they are nervous. And the person might not know why their
nervous themselves. So are you
helping them, or are you judging them?
is the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself, and
generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and
importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social and other
overestimations. Me, Me, Me
inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it
is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from
an inability to understand or assume any
other than their own.
is also known as an
with one's self and applies to someone who follows their own ungoverned
impulses and is possessed by delusions of personal greatness and feels a
lack of appreciation.
is intending to attract notice and impress others. Making claim to or
creating an appearance of (often undeserved) importance or distinction.
that conceals your
undesirable shortcomings by exaggerating desirable
is the inability to differentiate between
self and other
. More specifically,
it is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from
an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by
exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration,
and a lack of understanding of others' feelings. People affected by it
often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or
about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around
them. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across
a variety of situations.
is the pursuit of gratification from vanity
or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from
Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image
reflected in a pool of water.
is the view that humans are always
, even in what seem to be acts of altruism. It
claims that, when people choose to help others, they do so ultimately
because of the personal benefits that they themselves expect to obtain,
directly or indirectly, from doing so.
is the excessive belief in one's own abilities
or attractiveness to others. Pride
Id, Ego and
, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual
trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego
is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the
id and the super-ego. The super-ego can stop one from doing certain things
that one's id may want to do.
is a second self, which is believed to
be distinct from a person's normal or original personality. A person who
has an alter ego is said to lead a double life. Two-Faced
"True Self" to describe a sense of self based on
spontaneous authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a
is a prediction that directly or
indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy
itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.
is an unconscious psychological mechanism
that reduces anxiety arising from
or potentially harmful
in which humans defend themselves against
their own unconscious
or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their
existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a
person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being
rude. It incorporates blame shifting
is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of
the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling
unacceptable impulses in a more adult way.
is characterized by fantastical beliefs that one
or otherwise very powerful
is an unshakable belief
characterized by consistently inflated feelings of personal ability,
privilege, or infallibility. A person with a god complex may refuse to
admit the possibility of their error or failure, even in the face of
irrefutable evidence, intractable problems or difficult or impossible
tasks. The person is also highly
in their views,
meaning the person speaks of their personal opinions as though they are
unquestionably correct. Someone with a god complex may exhibit no regard
for the conventions and demands of society, and may request special
consideration or privileges.
is a perceived decay in standards, morals
dignity, religious faith, or skill at governing among the members of the
elite of a very large social structure, such as an empire or nation state.
By extension, it may refer to a decline in art, literature, science,
technology, and work ethics, or (very loosely) to self-indulgent behaviour.