Anger


Anger is an intense emotional response that happens when you feel extremely upset or pissed off about something to the point that you either scream loudly or have a violent physical reaction.

Managing Anger - Stubbornness - Complaining

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Person yelling at someone with fingers in thier ears Sometimes the best reaction is having no reaction at all. Reactions can sometimes make things worse, and they can also be misinterpreted and used against you. So knowing how to react and when to react can make all the difference. Delaying a reaction can give you the time needed to think before you speak or act, this way you can avoid saying something stupid or doing something stupid or over reacting.

"Anger is one letter short of danger."

"He who angers you, conquers you."

When someone is being disrespectful and abusive, you have two choices, you either ignore them so that you don't feed their ignorance, or you intervene and try to mitigate the damage that they're causing, especially when there is other people who are being victimized by the abuse. You have a choice. You can be quite and motionless instead of showing your anger, because there's going to be times when the place that you're in, is the right place to show your anger verbally or physically. Anger is something that you can control. You can laugh at a joke or get upset at a joke, but neither reaction explains very little about how you understand the joke. Anger is not a right, or is anger a measurement of reality. Anger can only be justified when it is absolutely necessary at a particular moment in time. Dealing with a problem is determined by your knowledge and experiences. Sometimes getting angry can do more harm than good. Figuring out how to solve a particular problem is a lot better than just yelling at a problem. How you perceive something may not always be accurate. And how you react to something may not always be the best and the most effective reaction. Think and look before you leap. Diplomacy.

Anger is sometimes a result of missing information. When you don't have information and knowledge to understand a situation, you may get frustrated and get mad or lash out. This is one of the reasons why children cry and have temper tantrums. Once a person becomes more educated and more experienced, they gain more self control.

It's not easy navigating the minefields that exist in peoples head. With some minds you have to be very carful where you step, because any kind of pressure can set them off. Some people can be very sensitive to any information that contradicts their beliefs.

Get Angry about Injustices, don't get angry about stupid things, because then anger will will be seen as ignorance.

The more we know about each other the less we fear - “Howard’s Way

Tolerance is about not letting your emotions like anger control you. Tolerance is about self-control and avoiding destroying an opportunity to communicate effectively, or destroying an opportunity to learn something valuable. Focus your energy on communication skills instead of wasting your energy on emotions. Tolerance is not being passive, it's being aware and intelligent. Attention - Intervention.

Hatred (forgiveness) - Stress - Crimes

We are more susceptible to anger when we are tired, stressed, hungry, chemically imbalanced, on drugs and even hot. Knowing and understanding these factors is the first step to controlling these influences. People get cranky, grouchy, grumpy and Irritable. And you must understand why this happens in order to protect yourself. Two Sides to a Coin.


Mad - Upset


Mad is when someone has an emotional reaction to something that was either influenced externally or internally and sometimes to the point of feeling anger and sometimes causing uncontrolled emotions or foolish behavior that could possibly lead to insanity or madness. Rage.

Upset is when you're feeling physically distressed or feeling anxious, uneasy, disturbed, trouble or grieved. Feeling unhappy or worried and thrown into a state of disarray or confusion where you lose your composure or mental state.

Furious is when someone is showing extreme anger or violent anger.

Overreacting - Sore Loser - Assuming - Provoke - Instigate - Complaining - Blaming

Blowing Hot Air usually means that someone is screaming exaggerated nonsense in a heated or angry tone.

Venting is to express strong emotions or relieve aggravation or get something off your chest. To vent bottled up emotions by griping, moaning, bitching or blowing off some steam when really angry or stressed. Let off some steam that has been building up. Venting can also mean to provide with an outlet for air, gas, or liquid.

Commotion is a disorderly outburst or a violent agitation. The act of making a noisy disturbance. Confused movement.

Hangry is when you become angry, anxious or even depressed because of hunger. Being hungry actually causes Serotonin levels to drop. The drop in Serotonin causes withdrawal-like symptoms such as anxiety, stress, anger and sadness. Adults may feel anger when hungry when their blood sugar dips too low for normal function, especially when hungry people were under stress.

Animosity is having strong Hostility or a feeling of strong dislike, Hatred or ill will towards someone.

Enmity is the state or feeling of being actively opposed or hostile to someone or something. Activism.

Animus is a feeling of ill will arousing active Hostility. Hatred.

Antagonistic is indicating opposition or resistance. Arousing animosity or hostility. Incapable of harmonious association.

Predator is a person who attacks someone physically or emotionally in order to exploit them, abuse them, harm them or kill them, without logic, purpose or reason. Animal predators are animals that attack other animals, either to eat them, kill them, to protect their offspring, or to reduce competition for resources.

Vendetta is a feud in which members of the opposing parties murder each other. Revenge.

Feud is a bitter quarrel between two people or group of people.

Quarrel is to have a disagreement over something. An angry dispute. Argue.

Conflict is a violent disagreement between two opposing groups or individuals.

Disagreement is having different claims or opinions about something. Not agreeing. Don't understand something the same way. See things differently.

Pejorative is expressing disapproval.

Frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to anger, annoyance and disappointment, frustration arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of an individual's will or goal and is likely to increase when a will or goal is denied or blocked. There are two types of frustration; internal and external. Internal frustration may arise from challenges in fulfilling personal goals, desires, instinctual drives and needs, or dealing with perceived deficiencies, such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Conflict, such as when one has competing goals that interfere with one another, can also be an internal source of frustration and can create cognitive dissonance. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside of an individual's control, such as a physical roadblock, a difficult task, or the perception of wasting time. There are multiple ways individuals cope with frustration such as passive–aggressive behavior, anger, or violence. This makes it difficult to identify the original cause(s) of their frustration, as the responses are indirect. However, a more direct and common response is a propensity towards aggression. Frustrated is to harass persistently in cruel or annoying way. Deprive of courage or hope; take away hope from; cause to feel discouraged. Disappointingly unsuccessful. To hinder or prevent the efforts, plans, or desires of someone.

Disgust is an emotional response of revulsion to something considered offensive, distasteful, or unpleasant.

Resentment and Bitterness is a feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will. Regret.

Resent is to feel bitter or indignant about. Angered at something unjust or wrong. Wish ill or allow unwillingly.

Dissatisfaction is the feeling of being displeased and discontent.

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to regret, it differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself. It is a source of psychological stress. The study of disappointment—its causes, impact, and the degree to which individual decisions are motivated by a desire to avoid it—is a focus in the field of decision analysis, as disappointment is, along with regret, one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making.

Discourage is try to prevent something or show opposition to something. Deprive of courage or hope or to take away hope from someone. Made less hopeful or enthusiastic. To cause to feel discouraged. Admonish or counsel in terms of someone's behavior.

Admonish is to express disapproval or warn strongly; To put on guard.

Sulking is to be silent, morose, and bad-tempered out of annoyance or disappointment. Be in a huff and display one's displeasure.

There is no excuse for being an as*hole. If you Blame others for your f*ckup behavior and ignorance, then that's your fault. This is not to say we over react sometimes and make mistakes, but when you keep making the same condescending mistakes over and over, without making any attempts to understand or communicate to that person or persons, then you have a very serious problem. This goes beyond stubbornness, this is a psychological distortion that needs to be addressed.

Blame - Complain - Don't go away mad, just go away.

Mania is a state of abnormally elevated arousal, affect, and energy level, or "a state of heightened overall activation with enhanced affective expression together with lability of affect as the mania intensifies, irritability may become more pronounced and eventuate in violence.

Abnormal Behavior - Apathy (bad)

Regression is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more [adaptive] way. The defense mechanism of regression, in psychoanalytic theory, occurs when an individual's personality reverts to an earlier stage of development, adopting more childish mannerisms.

Attitude is a psychological construct, it is a mental and emotional entity that inheres in, or characterizes a person. They are complex and an acquired state through experiences. It is an individual's predisposed state of mind regarding a value and it is precipitated through a responsive expression toward a person, place, thing, or event (the attitude object) which in turn influences individual's thought and action. Reaction.

Embarrassment is an emotional state of intense discomfort with oneself, experienced when having a socially unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others. Usually some amount of loss of honor or dignity is involved, but how much and the type depends on the embarrassing situation. It is similar to shame, except that shame may be experienced for an act known only to oneself. Also, embarrassment usually carries the connotation of being caused by an act that is merely socially unacceptable, rather than morally wrong.

"If you don't heal what hurts you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you".

"We all experience anger; anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long." — Raymond W. Novaco, 1984.


Provocation - Incite - Instigate - Agitate


Aggravate is to incite or provoke negative reactions of people, especially deliberately.

Incite is to provoke or stir up anger or violence. Bullying - Profanity - Hate Speech - Agitators.

Provoke is to annoy someone continually or chronically in order to influence emotions, feelings, and responses.

Provocation is action or speech that deliberately makes someone annoyed or angry. Action or speech held to be likely to prompt physical retaliation or violence. Testing to elicit a particular response or reflex. unfriendly behavior that causes anger or resentment. Something that incites and causes action. Propaganda or ignorance that promotes ignorant behavior.

Instigate is to provoke or stir up and serve as the inciting cause of something. To initiate or incite someone to do something, especially something bad.

False Flag - Inciting Violence - Critical Comments - Toxic Leadership - Giving a Voice to Lying Scumbags

Agitate is to physically disturb someone or start trouble that is emotional and usually deep.

Antagonize is to cause someone to become hostile. To provoke the hostility of someone. To act as an antagonist.

Entice is to provoke someone to do something through false or exaggerated promises or persuasion or seduction.

Pushing Someone's Button means to do something or say something that causes someone to have a very strong emotional reaction of anger, irritation or annoyance. Pushing someone's button can be done intentionally when a person is aware of something that another person does not like, and then uses that information to provoke a reaction.

Foment is to try to stir up public opinion. Rioting (revolutions).

Hit a Nerve is to provoke a reaction by referring to a sensitive topic.

Infuriate is to make someone extremely angry and impatient.

Furious is showing extreme anger or marked by extreme and violent energy.

Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress is a common law tort that allows individuals to recover for severe emotional distress caused by another individual who intentionally or recklessly inflicted the emotional distress by behaving in a way that was "extreme and outrageous". (IIED is sometimes called the tort of outrage).

Bullying - Aggression - Criticism - Complaining - Profanity

Pushed to a Breaking Point means that a person can no longer accept or deal with a situation because of too much pressure or stress. Having many problems or difficulties that someone can no longer cope with, and may soon collapse or be unable to continue. Keeping it Together.

Irritate is to cause annoyance in someone or disturb someone, especially by minor irritations.

Annoyance is an unpleasant mental state that is characterized by such effects as irritation and distraction from one's conscious thinking. It can lead to emotions such as frustration and anger. The property of being easily annoyed is called irritability, which is an excitation response to stimuli.

Vexatious is something causing irritation or annoyance. Frivolous.

Patience - Tolerance - Over Reacting

Escalation is an increase in the intensity or the seriousness of something. An intensification of actions that makes something stronger or more extreme with a high level of magnitude or degree.

Conflict Escalation is the process by which conflicts grow in severity over time. This may refer to conflicts between individuals or groups in interpersonal relationships, or it may refer to the escalation of hostilities in a political or military context. In systems theory, the process of conflict escalation is modeled by positive feedback.

Someone Gets Under Your Skin is when you allow someone to provoke anger in you or allow someone to annoy you.

Uncomfortable is feeling mental discomfort or experiencing physical discomfort.

Tension is when things feel so tight they might snap. Tension occurs when something is stretched either physically or emotionally. A feeling of nervousness before an important or difficult event. A feeling of fear or anger between two groups of people who do not trust each other. Strained relations between people can cause tensions to rise. The noun tension has its Latin roots in tendere, which means to stretch.


Rage - Out of Control Anger


Rage is a feeling of intense, violent, or growing anger that is often activated in response to being in the presence of a threat or perceiving a threat. The phrase "thrown into a fit of rage" expresses the immediate nature of rage that occurs from extended exposure to a threat, or sometimes from experiencing an imaginary threat that is not real. If this type of uncontrollable anger is left unchecked, this rage may lead to violence.

Over Reaction - Hostility - War

Lash Out is to hit or kick at someone or something.

Road Rage is aggressive or angry behavior by a driver of a road vehicle, which includes rude gestures, verbal insults, physical threats or dangerous driving methods targeted toward another driver in an effort to intimidate or release frustration. Road rage can lead to altercations, assaults and collisions that result in serious physical injuries or even death. It can be thought of as an extreme case of aggressive driving.

Aggressive Driving is defined by the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration as the behavior of an individual who commits a combination of moving traffic offences so as to endanger other persons or property.

Bike Rage refers to acts of verbal or gestural anger or physical aggression between cyclists and other users of bike paths or roadways, including pedestrians, other cyclists, motorcyclists, or drivers. Bike rage can consist of shouting at other road users, making obscene gestures or threats, hitting or punching, or in rare cases, even more violent acts. The term can refer either to acts committed by cyclists or by drivers. Bike rage is related to other explosive outbursts of anger such as road rage.

Wrapper Struggle Rage is the common name for heightened levels of anger and frustration resulting from the inability to open packaging, particularly some heat-sealed plastic blister packs and clamshells. People can potentially be injured from attempts at opening difficult packages: use of cutting tools can pose a risk of damage to the contents of the package. Easy-opening systems are available to improve package opening convenience.

Air Rage is the general term for disruptive or violent behavior perpetrated by passengers and crew of aircraft, typically during flight. Air rage has been defined as "aberrant, abnormal, or violent behavior exhibited during the air travel process".

Roid Rage is increased anger when taking Anabolic steroids. Bully - Addiction Side Effects.

Short-Tempered is when you're easily angered and frequently lose your temper.

Temper is a sudden outburst of anger. A disposition to exhibit uncontrolled anger.

"I don't have a quick temper, I just have a quick reaction to bullshit."

Intermittent Explosive Disorder is a behavioral disorder characterized by explosive outbursts of anger and violence, often to the point of rage, that are disproportionate to the situation at hand (e.g., impulsive screaming triggered by relatively inconsequential events). Impulsive aggression is unpremeditated, and is defined by a disproportionate reaction to any provocation, real or perceived. Some individuals have reported affective changes prior to an outburst (e.g., tension, mood changes, energy changes, etc.)

Narcissistic Rages is a reaction to narcissistic injury, which is a perceived threat to a narcissist's self-esteem or self-worth.

Massive Retaliation is a military doctrine and nuclear strategy in which a state commits itself to retaliate in much greater force in the event of an attack. Crimes - Violence.

Barbarian is a human who is perceived to be either uncivilized or primitive. In idiomatic or figurative usage, a "barbarian" may also be an individual reference to a brutal, cruel, warlike, insensitive person.

Computer Rage is physical or verbal abuse towards a computer or computer-related accessory due to heightened anger or frustration. Examples of computer rage include cursing or yelling at a computer, slamming or throwing keyboards and mice, and assaulting the computer or monitor with an object or weapon.


Tantrums


Tantrum is an emotional outburst, usually associated with children or those in emotional distress, that is typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, defiance, anger ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification and, in some cases, hitting. Physical control may be lost; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the "goal" of the person is met, he or she may not be calmed. A tantrum may be expressed in a tirade: a protracted, angry, or violent speech.

Acting Out is the performance of an action considered to be bad or anti-social. An action performed that is destructive to self or to others, and may inhibit the development of more constructive responses to the feelings in question. In the psychological of defense mechanisms and self-control, acting out means to perform an action in contrast to bearing and managing the impulse to perform it. The acting done is usually anti-social and may take the form of acting on the impulses of an addiction, often unconsciously or semi-consciously, and sometimes as a means to garner attention by behaving promiscuously or risky, or by throwing a tantrum.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a type of behavior disorder. Having frequent temper tantrums. Arguing a lot with adults. Refusing to do what an adult asks. Always questioning rules and refusing to follow rules. Doing things to annoy or upset others, including adults. Blaming others for the child’s own misbehaviors or mistakes. Being easily annoyed by others. Often having an angry attitude. Speaking harshly or unkindly. Seeking revenge or being vindictive.

Uncontrollable Child is a child with disruptive moods that can be completely unpredictable.

Intractable is something hard to control or deal with. Something not easily governed, managed, or directed.

Recalcitrant is someone resisting authority or control; not obedient or compliant; Having an obstinately uncooperative attitude toward authority or discipline.

Defiant Disorder is a pattern of angry/irritable mood, argumentative/defiant behavior, or vindictiveness lasting at least six months". Unlike children with conduct disorder (CD), children with oppositional defiant disorder are not aggressive towards people or animals, do not destroy property, and do not show a pattern of theft or deceit. A diagnosis of ODD is also no longer applicable if the individual is diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder (RAD).

Irrationality is cognition, thinking, talking or acting without inclusion of rationality. It is more specifically described as an action or opinion given through inadequate use of reason, or through emotional distress or cognitive deficiency. The term is used, usually pejoratively, to describe thinking and actions that are, or appear to be, less useful, or more illogical than other more rational alternatives. Irrational behaviors of individuals include taking offense or becoming angry about a situation that has not yet occurred, expressing emotions exaggeratedly (such as crying hysterically), maintaining unrealistic expectations, engaging in irresponsible conduct such as problem intoxication, disorganization, or extravagance, and falling victim to confidence tricks. People with a mental illness like schizophrenia may exhibit irrational paranoia.

"When we treat people like children, they usually act like children." Emotions.

Emotional Dysregulation refers to an emotional response that is poorly modulated, and does not fall within the conventionally accepted range of emotive response. ED may be referred to as labile mood (marked fluctuation of mood) or mood swings.

Hypomania is a mood state characterized by persistent disinhibition and pervasive elevated (euphoric) with or without irritable mood but generally less severe than full mania.

Bipolar is a mental disorder that causes periods of depression and periods of elevated mood. The elevated mood is significant and is known as mania or hypomania, depending on its severity, or whether symptoms of psychosis are present. During mania, an individual behaves or feels abnormally energetic, happy, or irritable. Individuals often make poorly thought out decisions with little regard to the consequences. The need for sleep is usually reduced during manic phases. During periods of depression, there may be crying, a negative outlook on life, and poor eye contact with others. The risk of suicide among those with the illness is high at greater than 6 percent over 20 years, while self-harm occurs in 30–40 percent. Other mental health issues such as anxiety disorders and substance use disorder are commonly associated.


Reactions - Responses


Reaction is a response that reveals a person's feelings or attitude. Doing something in opposition to another way of doing it that you don't like. Show a response or a reaction to something. Act against or in opposition to. An idea evoked by some experience. A bodily process occurring due to the effect of some antecedent stimulus or agent. Chemical Reaction.

Knee Jerk Reaction is when you automatically respond to something without thinking first. Assume.

Social Actions describes what happens when humans vary their actions according to social contexts and how it will affect other people; when a potential reaction is not desirable, the action is modified accordingly. Action can mean either a basic action (one that has a meaning) or an advanced social action, which not only has a meaning but is directed at other actors and causes action (or, perhaps, inaction). Activism.

Behavior - Reflexes - Over Reacting - Rage - Delayed Response

This is not to say that people are not going to catch you at a bad time, or catch you off guard. Anyone can be vulnerable to reactions they regret, especially when they are not themselves or not in a good mood.

It's not how you reacted at first, it's what you do next. Getting mad at something or someone, happens, this is because humans have emotions. And when things happen expectantly or without notice, we can easily over react. But the most important thing that you do, is what you do next. Your first reaction is over, now what? You need to communicate and learn about the cause of the reaction, the external causes and internal causes. And this is why Intelligent Machines or AI can benefit humans. Machines don't have emotions, so machines don't over react. AI simply processes the information that it is programed to process, and then communicates the information based on the rules of the program and how much knowledge and information is accessible at that time. The machines awareness can be as big or wide as it needs to be. If you don't have an AI Machine, then you will have to use the intelligent machine between your ears.

Delayed Reaction - Rumors - Patience

Oppose is to be against; express opposition to. Fight against or resist strongly. Set into opposition or rivalry.

Response is a statement either spoken or written that is made to reply to a question or request or criticism or accusation.
Activism.


Over Reacting


Over Reaction is an excessive reaction with unnecessary or inappropriate force, inappropriate emotional display, or violence.

Exaggeration is a representation of something in an excessive manner.

Outburst is an unrestrained expression of emotion. A sudden violent disturbance.

Disturbance is an activity that is a malfunction, intrusion, or interruption. (psychiatry) a psychological disorder of thought or emotion; a more neutral term than mental illness or disease of the mind. Denial.

Complaining (blaming) - Patience and Tolerance without Acceptance - Reactions - Worry

Don't over react because someone else over reacts. If you over react to someone else's overreaction, then things could easily escalate out of control. Defending yourself is a lot more effective when you are not overreacting. Awareness and control, followed by positive actions. Conversations are important.


There's No Need to be Mean or Disrespectful


Belligerence is a hostile or warlike attitude or behavior. Impossible to bring into friendly accord. A hostile and very unfriendly disposition. Not disposed to friendship or friendliness. Characterized by enmity or ill will. Bad - Wrong.

Belligerent outbursts with screaming and yelling is disturbing behavior that needs to be minimized before harm and damage becomes too severe and impossible to manage. If a person cannot learn to control their emotions, then most likely, professional care is needed. Always jumping to conclusions without fully understanding where you are headed is dangerous. You have to learn to put yourself into other people's shoes. 

Spiteful is showing malicious ill will and a desire to hurt; Feeling a need to see others suffer. Hurt the feelings of.

Cynical is believing the worst of human nature and motives; Having a sneering disbelief in the selflessness of others. Complain.

The Negative and Bitter Attributes of Name Calling (profanity)

Bitterness is a feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will marked by strong resentment or cynicism. Very difficult to accept or bear.

Bitterness, Resentment or Deep Pain resulting from horrible times in your past, will always resurface later on in life. Please take the necessary steps to overcome these feelings, and move on. There's no need to be Susceptible or Vulnerable. You have learn to let it go and never forget that you are in control. Command Yourself. Your Brain will listen to you, as usual.

Hang-up is having a preoccupation, fixation, or psychological block that is complex and a source of annoying difficulty or burden.

Resentful is a feeling or expressing bitterness or indignation at having been treated unfairly. Angered at something unjust or wrong. A feeling of provoked anger. Strike with disgust or revulsion. Cause aversion in; offend the moral sense of.

Resentment is the foundation of hatred. It is not one of the six basic emotions of surprise, disgust, happiness, sadness, anger, and fear. Resentment is a mixture of disappointment, anger, and fear. It comprises the three basic emotions of disgust, sadness and surprise—the perception of injustice. As the surprise of injustice becomes less frequent, so too fades anger and fear, leaving disappointment as the predominant emotion. So, to the extent perceived disgust and sadness remain, the level of disappointment also remains. Bias.

Why don't people just say what they mean instead of just screaming how they feel. Communicating Emotionally is only effective when its sincere and honest. if you are using too much emotion to communicate eventually people will be less responsive and will always find it hard to know if you are sincere and honest. Faking emotions can be dangerous to yourself and others. This is not the same as Emotional Detachment.

Don't Cry Wolf is defined as "to give a false alarm", so much so, that you create Alarm Fatigue in others.

First-Order Reaction that proceeds at a rate that depends linearly on only one reactant concentration.

I wasted a lot of time being angry at things that I didn't understand. I was ignorantly reacting to situations instead of learning about what those situations meant. I was acting more like a four year old than an adult. And that is when I realized that I had no idea what being an adult was. I also realized that no one else knew what being an adult was. So this is another course in the BK101 education curriculum that must be designed. I see people being aggravated, but why do people blame others for their aggravation? They themselves are the cause of the aggravation. If something is wrong or not right then learn how to correct it. Being mad at a problem does not solve the problem, it only makes the problem worse


Passive Aggressive


Passive-Aggressive Behavior is a pattern of indirect resistance to the demands or requests of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation. Pretending not to understand is a typical passive-aggressive strategy. Such behavior is often protested by associates, evoking frustration or anger, and labelled "catty", "manipulative", or "acting/going dumb". Passive-aggressive behavior may be subconsciously or consciously used to evoke these emotions and reactions in others. It may also be used as an alternative to verbalizing or acting out their own anger. It is an act if it is occasional and does not substantially interfere with social or occupational function, or relationships; it is a behavior if it used more persistently; it is a personality disorder if there is a pervasive pattern of such behavior which does interfere in these areas. Passive Aggressive Behavior can also be an indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, stubbornness, sullen behavior, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible, like some politicians do. Negativistic attitudes and passive resistance to demands for adequate performance in social and occupational situations. Characterized by a habitual pattern of passive resistance to expected work requirements, opposition, sullenness, stubbornness, and negative attitudes in response to requirements for normal performance levels expected of others willful incompetence. Either you're a lazy piece of sh*t who doesn't care about life or other people, or you have emotional problems. Passive Aggressive Behavior is not to be confused with refusing unreasonable requests, or depression, or ignorance, or Civil Disobedience or Conscientious Objector

Silent Treatment is a refusal to communicate verbally with someone who desires the communication. It may range from just sulking to malevolent abusive controlling behavior. It may be a passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse in which displeasure, disapproval and contempt is exhibited through nonverbal gestures while maintaining verbal silence. Clinical psychologist Harriet Braiker identifies it as a form of manipulative punishment. Shunning.

Self Defense - Patience

Don't let the criminals and the as*holes attack you twice. Scumbags may attack your physical self, but don't let them attack you from the inside. Don't let a bad experience linger and cause you to replay the bullshit over and over. Learn from it and move on. And one way of doing that is learning Self Control, which is a skill that covers many different subjects and several areas of knowledge. Learn this skill, it is extremely powerful. It's the gift that keeps on giving, and it will benefit you your entire life. There are as*holes in the world that we have to deal with from time to time. Treat them like the children they are and learn from that moment and educate others about that moment in the best way possible, and then move on. Don't let the as*holes linger like radio active fallout from a nuclear bomb. Learning how to not let horrible experiences ruin your life is like having the ultimate protection, an impenetrable armour for the mind that shields you from all the as*holes in the world.

Anger may not be a sign of weakness, but it maybe a sign or an indicator of injustice. So when I see people get mad, I don't jump to conclusions, I investigate and learn, because the person might be wrong, but they could also be right.

Premonitions

"If we can use our energy to evoke anger, then we can also use our energy to evoke love. We should use our energy to be productive instead of wasting our energy to be destructive. We know that anger and violence is not necessary to communicate with humans, or any other animal or life form. Physical and mental Punishment in the form of Discipline is only used by ignorant people who have very little knowledge about language and the transferring information. If we don't make knowledge and information more available through the media and through education, our own ignorance will continue to kill and destroy everything in its path. Stop these wars, stop the madness, educate, educate, educate."

"Give me the ability to understand the things I cannot change, but more importantly, give me the abilities, skills and knowledge to change the things that need to be changed."


Anger Management - Controlling Anger


Anger Management is learning how not to get angry using methods of control and reasoning. Could also be a psycho-therapeutic program for anger prevention and control, described as defusing anger successfully. Anger is frequently a result of frustration or ignorance, or feeling blocked or thwarted from something we feel to be important. Anger can also be a defensive response to underlying fear or feelings of vulnerability or powerlessness. Anger can also come from stubbornness. Anger management programs consider anger to be a motivation caused by an identifiable reason which can be logically analyzed, and if suitable worked toward. Anger Management (mind tools).

Instead of reacting and attacking with anger, react with understanding. Learning to understand is a lot more effective, a lot more efficient, and a lot more beneficial on the mind, the body, and the world. It's a Win Win for everyone, and everything.

Conflict Resolution - Diplomacy - Forgiveness - Conflict Avoidance

Defuse
is to reduce the danger or tension in a difficult situation. Let the air clear. Let someone cool off. Let someone calm down. Give someone time to think, but make sure that their anger is not going to get worse. Self-Defense.

Defuse a Situation With a Difficult Customer (wikihow) 

Escalation (provoked)

Things don't create anger, people create anger because of their reaction to things. And reactions are based on a persons personal perception, their knowledge, and their experiences. This is why people can react to the same thing differently than one another. So reality becomes subjective, which isolates people. We need to learn how to communicate more effectively, so that we can be more understanding of one another, instead of being misunderstood and creating barriers that impedes our ability to communicate and sympathize with each other. We are an intelligent species, but we have to learn how to be intelligent in order to be intelligent. 

We can control our behaviors most of the time, but behaviors can also happen automatically, which is good because you wouldn't want to have to tell yourself to be happy. Happiness should just happen naturally without you telling yourself to feel happy, or to act happy. And you don't want to have tell yourself to feel sad or to act sad. You want control, but you have to understand what you are controlling and why. And you still want automatic behaviors because automatic behaviors are more efficient than manually activated behaviors, though automatic functions still need to have awareness because automatic features carry their own risk. You don't want to feel the pain or feel emotional distress because someone is being abusive to you. It's better to be in control of yourself instead of letting others control you. Your intelligence is your power. But you have to learn how to effectively use intelligence in order to maximize the power of knowledge. There is a lot of untapped energy in the human body and in our environment that needs to be fully utilized, or it's just wasted potential. We could have a constant flow of energy if we would just stop wasting it and abusing it.

You can't blame other people for your behavior, people don't control you. No one is asking to act a certain way and no one is asking you to behave or respond in a particular way. Yes there are times that people can make it very difficult for you to control your own behavior. But you are either in control or you are out of control. And if you act like an idiot, that's your fault. Be professional.

Argument (debate)

Sometimes violence begets violence, and anger begets anger, the key is not to harbor any anger or violence, because it is a poison to the mind and the body.

Hotter temperatures increase violence and crimes, why?

You can't get angry with people just because they don't understand the same things that you do. The feeling of anger should only be used as an indicator that says "questions need to be answered". The emotion of anger is not necessary, and many times anger is counterproductive. Anger is you being frustrated with yourself, because you still haven't learned how to communicate effectively, with yourself, or with others. I still get angry and disturbed by other peoples ignorant behavior, I just get angry a lot less now. I'm more systematic in my approach when I see problems. Instead of wasting time having an emotional reaction to problems, I spend more time acting on solving the problem instead of just reacting to the problem. Things still piss me off sometimes, but now I'm a lot more calm in my approach. You can't solve problems just by being mad at problems. And if you never learn how to understand why you are mad, then you will always be mad in more ways than one. You have to cross over that line from where you pretend to know to where you actually know. You have to know something for sure if you are ever going to find a cure.

Baseline - True Self - Diversity Training

There is nothing shameful about getting angry, as long as you don't get angry all the time at everything. Controlling anger takes time. The more you are aware of yourself, the more you can control yourself. And don't think that anger is something that you could fully remove from your behavior, anger is there for a reason as part of a defense mechanism. But if anger is over used, it does more harm then good. Problem solving doesn't need anger, in fact anger inhibits problem solving and communication. Anger is only useful when you absolutely need to use it to express urgency, and hopefully that is very seldom, otherwise anger does more harm then good. When transferring knowledge or information, we should use the most effective and efficient mode of transfer, otherwise we communicate and express emotion and feelings for nothing.


Marcus Aurelius - (121 – 180 AD)


"Someone despises me. That’s their problem. Mine: not to do or say anything despicable. Someone hates me. Their problem. Mine: to be patient and cheerful with everyone, including them. Ready to show them their mistake. Not spitefully, or to show off my own self-control, but in an honest, upright way. If any man despises me, that is his problem. My only concern is not doing or saying anything deserving of contempt. What if someone despises me? Let them see to it. But I will see to it that I won’t be found doing or saying anything contemptible. What if someone hates me? Let them see to that. But I will see to it that I’m kind and good-natured to all, and prepared to show even the hater where they went wrong. Not in a critical way, or to show off my patience, but genuinely and usefully." —Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 11.13 - Rome - Philosophers.

The Evil That Men Do Harms You Only if You Do Evil in Response.

When people injure you, ask yourself what good or harm they thought would come of it. If you understand that, you’ll feel sympathy rather than outrage or anger. Your sense of good and evil may be the same as theirs, or near it, in which case you have to excuse them. Or your sense of good and evil may differ from theirs. In which case they’re misguided and deserve your compassion. Is that so hard? That kindness is invincible, provided it’s sincere—not ironic or an act. What can even the most vicious person do if you keep treating him with kindness and gently set him straight—if you get the chance—correcting him cheerfully at the exact moment that he’s trying to do you harm. “No, no, my friend. That isn’t what we’re here for. It isn’t me who’s harmed by that. It’s you.” And show him, gently and without pointing fingers, that it’s so. That bees don’t behave like this— or any other animals with a sense of community. Don’t do it sardonically or meanly, but affectionately—with no hatred in your heart. And not ex cathedra or to impress third parties, but speaking directly. Even if there are other people around. For there are two rules we should always have at hand: That nothing is good or evil, but choice, and, That we are not to lead events, but to follow them. “My brother ought not to have treated me so”. Very true, but it is for him to see to that. However he treats me, I am to act rightly with regard to him. For this is my concern, the other is somebody else’s; this no one can hinder, the other is open to hindrance

Marcus reminded himself to not be upset by the misdeeds of others and to correct them if possible, but if they were stubborn and would not change, to accept it. In reacting to such people, we must never allow our own principles to be violated. Moreover, we should never be surprised by the wicked deeds of others, and avoid wishing that men are not as they are (prone to evil acts) because then we are wishing for the impossible. He believed that people do bad things out of ignorance of what is good and evil, and that we should forgive them for their errors, even when they harm us. Marcus stresses that social animals such as humans are meant to live in harmony.

He likened his relation to bad people to them being different body parts of the same person. Good and bad people are both part of the same universal nature and they are meant to interact and cooperate. Marcus Aurelius—and indeed all the Stoics—believed that we were part of an inner-connected organism. That you couldn’t hurt one person without hurting them all. “What injures the hive, injures the bee,” he said. “The best revenge,” he said, “is not to be like that.” Meaning: When you hurt others, you hurt the group and you hurt yourself.

It is against nature to despise evil people and try to avoid them. When we find ourselves judging others, we ought to consider our own faults first. Then we will find that we are less prone to blaming them. Rather than judge and be disturbed by others, which sets us up for disappointment and distress, we ought to focus on self-improvement. Marcus said,

“It is a ridiculous thing for a man not to fly from his own badness, which is indeed possible, but to fly from other men’s badness, which is impossible.”

“It’s silly to try to escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own.”

Marcus repeatedly explains why the pursuit of fame and praise is foolish and why we especially should not care about what others think of us after we die. He points out that so many famous men have been forgotten, that those who would praise one posthumously will themselves soon die. He explains that there are no immortal actions.

“Consider that as the heaps of sand piled on one another hide the former sands, so in life the events which go before are soon covered by those which come after.”

Fame, no matter how great, will always fade into oblivion and pursuit of it merely demonstrates one’s vanity.

He also explains that nothing is made better by praise, the beauty of things comes from the thing itself and not what people say about it. To think then that we are gaining something by being praised is a mistake.

“When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top— credit for the good deed or a favor in return?”

Marcus and the Stoics see doing good as the proper job of a human being. So why on earth do you need thanks or recognition for having done the right thing? It’s your job. Why would you need to be famous? Because you were talented? Because you were brilliant? Because you were successful? These things are part of the job too.

“Is any man afraid of change? What can take place without change? What then is more pleasing or more suitable to the universal nature? And canst thou take a bath unless the wood undergoes a change? And canst thou be nourished, unless the food undergoes a change? And can anything else that is useful be accomplished without change?”

Let not future things disturb you, for you will come to them, if it shall be necessary, having with you the same reason which you now use for present things.”

If we don’t let events make us worse people, we are never truly harmed by them.

“Whatever anyone does or says, I must be good, just as if the gold, or the emerald, or the purple were always saying this, whatever anyone does or says, I must be emerald and keep my color.”

My formula for greatness in a human being is Amor Fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it…but love it

Your Rational Mind is Your Greatest Asset.

Marcus knew that our ability to reason is what sets us apart from the animals and is an important power that we must use to the fullest. He believed (like all Stoics) that our reason could be used to understand the universal reason present in nature, which would lead to agreement with it even if events seemed harmful. Our rational minds have complete power over our opinions and the mind only experiences suffering when it itself creates a desire for a specific outcome in life.

Marcus—who had more control over his environment than most—was also the pen behind these lines: “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

Marcus teaches that our mind is a thing that controls itself completely and is separated from the world; it cannot be affected by events unless it makes itself be affected. Every appearance is the result of what the mind wills it to appear to be and the mind makes itself exactly what it is. Since this is so, there is no reason we should not agree with nature, since nature has provided us with the means to rationally accept the course of events no matter where they take us.

“Our actions may be impeded . . . but there can be no impeding our intentions or dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt. The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting.”

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.”

If it is not right, do not do it, if it is not true, do not say it.”

The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”

“Your mind will take the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, for the human spirit is colored by such impressions.”

“We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”

Not to feel exasperated, or defeated, or despondent because your days aren’t packed with wise and moral actions. But to get back up when you fail, to celebrate behaving like a human—however imperfectly—and fully embrace the pursuit that you’ve embarked on.”

“How easy it is to repel and to wipe away every impression which is troublesome or unsuitable, and immediately to be in all tranquility.”

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”

“Ambition means tying your well-being to what other people say or do…Sanity means tying it to your own actions.”

“Discard your misperceptions. Stop being jerked like a puppet. Limit yourself to the present.” Marcus Aurelius.


Patience - Tolerance


Toleration is showing respect for the rights or opinions or practices of others, or having the willingness to recognize and respect the beliefs or practices of others. To be tolerant, understanding and forgiving under a perceived provocation. Having a disposition to allow freedom of choice and behavior. A permissible difference that allows some freedom to move within limits. The ability to put up with something or somebody unpleasant. To allow the presence of something or allow an activity without opposing it or prohibiting it. Learning to adapt or modify yourself or something else in order to improve a difficult situation. Being able to tolerate unfavorable environmental conditions or physiological stress. Showing the capacity for endurance.

Thoughtful - Empathy - Diplomacy - Anger Control

Patience is having mental toughness when faced with provocation or stress. The state of endurance under difficult circumstances. Being in control without acting on annoyance or anger in a negative way. To exhibit forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Enduring trying circumstances with even temper or characterized by such endurance. Good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence. Antonyms of patience includes hastiness and impetuousness.

Forbearing is showing patient and unruffled self-control and restraint under adversity. Thinking first before you retaliate or express resentment.

Steadfast is having firm determination or resolution. Being firm and not shakable.

Command is an authoritative direction or instruction to do something. Leadership.

You need to learn how to accept someone and understand someone without enabling them or encouraging them by being passive or passive aggressive. Have Patience, but don't expect or assume.

Empathic Intelligence - Moral Consciousness - Awareness

How can a person be aware of the benefits of having patience and tolerance if they never learned the reasoning and logic behind it? Patience and tolerance gives you more control and more Awareness, and not to sit idly, but to use the power of patience and tolerance to explore and find ways to improve life in any way possible. You don't want to encourage a behavior that might be unbeneficial, you want to carefully find a way to improve a particular behavior, and at the same time understand this behavior more accurately. When it comes to conflicts, others may become over whelmed with fear and doubt and become incapacitated and be unable to act effectively, and others will even overreact. But if you understand the power of patience and tolerance you will be methodically working towards solutions, and at the same time be an inspiration to others along the way. That's the power of patience and tolerance, but it's only the beginning. There are many other elements that go beyond just having patience and tolerance, and when you learn all the other knowledge and information that is involved, you will begin to understand the power of knowledge. You will no longer be distracted, or discouraged, or manipulated like you were before. It is one of the most grandest liberations you will ever experience. You have the Power.

Reaction Formation is a defensive process or defense mechanism in which emotions and impulses which are anxiety-producing or perceived to be unacceptable are mastered by exaggeration (hypertrophy) of the directly opposing tendency. The reaction formations belong to Level III of neurotic defense mechanisms,[clarification needed] which also include intellectualization, dissociation, displacement and repression.

Cathartic is providing psychological relief through the open expression of strong emotions; causing catharsis. Cathartic can also mean a purgative drug or a substance that accelerates defecation.

Catharsis is the purification and purgation of emotions—particularly pity and fear—through art or any extreme change in emotion that results in renewal and restoration and cleansing.

Non-Violent Protest - Conformity - Forgiveness - Avoiding Revenge

Prisons don't work, Zero Tolerance doesn't work either.

Arguments - Complaining - Profanity - Morality - Facial Expressions

Change is to become different in some particular way, without permanently losing one's or its former characteristics or essence. An event that occurs when something passes from one state or phase to another. Give to, and receive from, one another.

Adapt is to make fit for, or change to suit a new purpose. Adjust oneself to new or different conditions. Alter or regulate so as to achieve accuracy or conform to a standard.

"Every bad moment or mistake that is fraught with anger or punishment is another lost opportunity to learn something valuable."

"Never look down on someone unless you're trying to help them up." Jesse Jackson

Learning to separate your emotions from your experiences will help you to be more aware of your options and your choices so that you can take the appropriate action, instead of inappropriately reacting to a situation. Act, not react. Respond to a situation rather than just reacting to it. Don't allow outside influences to manipulate your behavior, or distract you from the facts that surrounds a particular situation. 

Awareness - Focus - Morals - Problem Solving - Self Directed Learning

Sadly, there are some people who actually like Conflict, only because they have not yet realized how Counterintuitive it is, and they also haven't learned Problem Solving, Communication Skills, Self-Control, Conflict Resolution, Conflict Management and Dialectic. Be careful not to get fooled into playing other peoples games, especially games of conflict.

This is another course of study we will have to add to our education, we'll call it "Good Ways to Avoid War". Compatibility.

This goes way beyond Dominators, Influencers, Cooperators and Detailers. You have to stand up for what is right, like when being an Activist. But you don't want to make things worse. So you have to learn how to Communicate effectively and learn how to avoid Degrading Language.

Let It Be - The Beatles (youtube) - Let It Be is the twelfth and final studio album by the English rock band the Beatles that was released on 8 May 1970.
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the broken hearted people living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be
For though they may be parted, there is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be, be
And when the night is cloudy there is still a light that shines on me
Shinin' until tomorrow, let it be
I wake up to the sound of music, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.


No one is Born Bad


Nelson Mandela Learn to Love“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” Nelson Mandela (wiki) - Love is the way.

"What makes you mad is not the reason you're mad, the reason you're mad is because you've gone mad." Hate Speech (profanity).

"No one can make you angry, you can only choose to be angry, so the choice is yours."


"For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness." (Ralph Waldo Emerson) - More Life Quotes.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” (Marcus Aurelius)

Disagreements is a state of prolonged public dispute or debate, usually concerning a matter of conflicting opinion or point of view.

Passive Aggressive Behavior - Behavior - Anger Management - Management Skills

Anti-Defamation League is a civil rights/human relations agency.

Hecklers Veto occurs when an acting party's right to freedom of speech is curtailed or restricted by the government in order to prevent a reacting party's behavior.

Censorship - Terms of Service - Harassment (bully)

Conflict Escalation is the process by which conflicts grow in severity over time.

Contempt is lack of respect accompanied by a feeling of intense dislike. Bias.

Condescension - Complaining - Emotions - Mindfulness - Awareness - Patience - Tolerance - Morals - Relationships - Problem Solving

Full Stop is the end of a sentence or explanation. Enough said. I no longer want to speak.

Angry Young Man - Billy Joel (youtube)

What's the difference between Burning Bridges and Biting the Hand that Feeds You?

Forgiveness - Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right

What are the differences between being irritated, offended, Annoyed, having a short temper, being Frustrated and being in an Angry Mood? Is it all Subjectivity? Can you have an Opinion and still be Objective?


Related Subjects - Confidence - Ignorance - Friendships - People Smart - Self-Smart - Know Thyself - Stubborn - Narrow-Minded - Delusional Disorder - Psychopathy - Behavior - Social Behavior - Rebellion (activism) - Aggression - Evil - Malice - Hostility - Transference - Forgiveness - Patience - Balance - Meditation - Relaxation Techniques - Sports - Exercise - Paranoid - Fear - Panic Attack - Anxieties - Phobias - Cognitive Distortion - Ignorance - Negativity Bias - Sanity - Depression.



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