having something on your mind because it's important to you, or
to you, or affects you. A feeling of
sympathy for someone or something. "Sometimes being concerned can
create an anxious feeling that causes anxiety or becomes a source of
unhappiness. That's the moment when you stopped being concerned and
Despair is the
complete loss of hope or absence of hope. The feeling that everything is
wrong and nothing will turn out well.
Desperation is a state of despair, typically one that sometimes
results in rash or extreme behavior or recklessness or the trait of giving
little thought to danger.
feeling downcast and disheartened and hopeless.
Apprehension is fearful
expectation or anticipation.
Guilt occurs when a person believes that they have made a
horrible mistake, or they feel that they made a serious
error in judgment,
and now they feel really bad about what they did because they know how bad
the mistake was, and that damage has been done to themselves or to others,
or damage has been done to something in the environment. And the only
relief from the guilt and pain is to do something that would repair the
damage, or do something that would make up for the loss or the mistake
that you made. The right thing to do is to take full responsibility for
what you have done, but more importantly, you must learn from this mistake
so that you never have to repeat it again in the future.
Men who worry more may develop heart disease and diabetes risk factors
at younger ages. Middle-aged men who are anxious and worry more may be at
greater biological risk for developing heart disease, stroke and type 2
diabetes, also called cardiometabolic disease, as they get older.
The most dangerous enemy that a person
can have is themselves. You are your own worst
enemy. You can fight and defend yourself from an external enemy,
but the enemy within is more difficult to defend yourself against because
yourself and this perceived enemy
share the same space. But you don't have to defeat this enemy, because it
was never the enemy, the enemy is your
your assumptions that
gives rise to this problem. You mistakenly birthed an alter ego. Now you
must replace that little devil with a
shoulder angel who symbolizes
your divine reasoning and common sense. You have
to make friends with the
little cry baby that lives inside you.
Having a conscience is a good
thing. But just like all technology, we can misuse our abilities
and our tools, which
can make a good thing become a bad thing. So, to control your thoughts you
must learn to understand your thoughts. Learning is a gift. To know
thyself is the way. But if we don't learn effectively and efficiently,
then learning will also become a technology that we misuse. Learning to be
aware of your thoughts, and learning to understand your thoughts, and
learning how to control your thoughts, is the best way to protect yourself
from negative thoughts, abusive thoughts, intrusive thoughts distracting
thoughts, non-sensible thoughts, and irrelevant information. You cause
most of your own problems because you're using distorted thinking patterns
to define your reality. You should control your thoughts and not let your
feelings control your thoughts. Of course this is easier said than done.
To be a master of your own domain takes practice and learning. The mind is
the power. But to wield this power, one needs
valuable knowledge. And you don't need to be a superhero or be a
professional fighter, because the battles you'll be fighting are mostly
internal, which means that knowledge is your strength, and not just having
a strong and healthy body.
Internalizing Disorder is when people internalize problems or keep
their problems to themselves, with behavior that is directed mainly toward
themselves, sometimes causing depression, withdrawal, anxiety, and
Run Away Thoughts. “Your
worst enemy cannot
harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” ~Buddha.
when a person is over
exaggerating the seriousness of
situation without consideringall the facts, or without making sure that
their thinking is accurate or correct, or without making sure that they're not making any
unusual assumptions. When
you're paranoid, you can easily
be overwhelm with all kinds of different
happen. So it's always best to solve your problems than to worry about
your problems, especially when some problems seem bigger than they really
aware should not lead to obsessions, so don't
confuse extrasensory perception
paranoia or low
Thinking Trap is a
certain type of pattern of thoughts that tend to trap us in anxiety.
Sometime we can have lots of anxious thoughts about the future, and
sometimes we can focus too much on what other people are thinking. We
think so much about wanting to stay safe, that we sometimes see danger
lurking around every corner.
Thought Loop is
defined as the experience of becoming trapped
within a chain of thoughts, actions and emotions which
repeats itself over and over again in a cyclic
loop. These loops usually range from anywhere between 5 seconds and 2
minutes in length.
Stewing is to be
angry or worried about something for a while.
When a situation
offends you, and when you take things too personally, and when you get
upset by the things other people say or do, you can easily
someone else is saying and believe that their remarks or behavior are
personally directed at you, which may make you feel insecure or make you
is a debilitating condition that is the result of an inaccurate
perception of the condition of body or mind
despite the absence of an actual medical condition. It's becoming unduly
alarmed about any physical or psychological
symptoms they detect, no
matter how minor the symptom may be, and are convinced that they have, or
are about to be diagnosed with, a serious illness. An individual suffering
from hypochondriasis is known as a hypochondriac. (also known as health
anxiety or illness anxiety disorder, worrying
about having a serious illness).
Don't Pretend that you Know.
Insecurity is a feeling of general
unease or nervousness
that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be
inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which
threatens one's self-image or ego.
Words that seem to come out of nowhere,
appearing or happening suddenly and unexpectedly. But not really. I was
thinking about something that lead me to another thought. Or, I was just
aimlessly wondering about? One thing is for sure, I was definitely not
paying attention or
living in the now. It's like when
dreaming during sleep, you're
not the director or an actor with a script. You just happen to show up
somewhere, and you're like, WTF is happening now? Out Of Nowhere
-Charlie Parker and Miles Davis (1947) - (youtube).
Paranoid Personality Disorder is a mental
disorder characterized by paranoia and a pervasive, long-standing
suspiciousness and generalized mistrust of others. Individuals with this
personality disorder may be hypersensitive, easily insulted, and
habitually relate to the world by vigilant scanning of the environment for
clues or suggestions that may validate their fears
or biases. Paranoid
individuals are eager observers. They think they are in danger and look
for signs and threats of that danger, potentially not appreciating other
is a personality trait characterized by a person's
flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards,
accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding
Haunted is having or showing excessive or
compulsive concern with
something. Experiencing an emotional state of great suffering and distress
and being disturb in mind or make uneasy or cause to be worried or alarmed
and have anxiety about possible developments. Continually
recurring thoughts in the mind that
recur constantly regular or frequent.
Terror Management Theory
proposes a basic psychological conflict that results from having a desire
to live, but realizing that death is inevitable. This
terror, and this terror is then managed by embracing cultural values, or
symbolic systems that act to provide life with meaning and value.
Existential Angst is sometimes called existential
dread, anxiety, or anguish. It is a term
common to many existentialist thinkers. It is generally held to be a
negative feeling arising from the experience of human freedom and
responsibility. Despair is generally
defined as a loss of hope. In existentialism, it is more specifically a
loss of hope in reaction to a breakdown in
one or more of the defining qualities of one's self or identity.
is someone who looks or acts nervous, restless or fidgety and
unable to relax.
Controlling Runaway Thoughts
Thought Suppression occurs when we try to ignore or
control intrusive thoughts that we find
threatening or distressing. Thought suppression is a
mechanism. It is a type of motivated forgetting in which an individual
consciously attempts to stop thinking about a particular thought.
Intrusive Thought is an unwelcome, involuntary thought, image, or
unpleasant idea that may become an obsession, is upsetting or distressing,
and can feel difficult to manage or eliminate.
Pretend that words do not exist is one way
to control runaway thoughts.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is to open up to unpleasant
feelings, and learn not to overreact to
them, and not avoiding situations where they are invoked. Its therapeutic
effect is a positive spiral where feeling better leads to a better
understanding of the truth. In ACT, 'truth'
is measured through the concept of 'workability', or what works to take
another step toward what matters (e.g. values, meaning). ACT differs from
behavioral therapy (CBT) in that rather than trying to teach people to
better control their thoughts, feelings, sensations, memories and other
private events, ACT teaches them to "just notice,"
accept, and embrace their private events, especially previously unwanted
ones. ACT helps the individual get in contact with a transcendent sense of
self known as "self-as-context"—the you who is always there observing and
experiencing and yet distinct from one's thoughts, feelings, sensations,
and memories. ACT aims to help the individual clarify their personal
values and to take action on them, bringing more vitality and meaning to
their life in the process, increasing their psychological flexibility. As
a simple way to summarize the model, ACT views the core of many problems
to be due to the concepts represented in the acronym, FEAR:
Fusion with your thoughts.
Evaluation of experience.
Avoidance of your experience.
Reason-giving for your behavior. And the
healthy alternative is to ACT: Accept your
reactions and be present. Choose a
valued direction. Take action. ACT commonly
employs six core principles to help clients develop psychological
flexibility. Cognitive defusion: Learning
methods to reduce the tendency to reify thoughts, images, emotions, and
memories. Acceptance: Allowing unwanted
private experiences (thoughts, feelings and urges) to come and go without
struggling with them. Contact with the present
moment: Awareness of the here and now, experienced with openness,
interest, and receptiveness. The observing self:
Accessing a transcendent sense of self, a continuity of consciousness
which is unchanging. Values: Discovering what is most important to
oneself. Committed action: Setting goals
according to values and carrying them out responsibly.
because you think it, doesn't make it true."
your mind recorded every thought that you had during the day, and told you
every thing that you were thinking about and how often you thought about
certain things. You would be amazed and shocked. Most people have
reoccurring thoughts and think about the same things everyday. And a lot
of the time people are unaware of how often they think about certain
things. Imagine writing down every thought that you had during the day,
you would be doing more writing than thinking. But it might be an
interesting exercise for one day. You're thinking can sometimes be like you're in a
you're thinking, but you're not asking the right
or getting the right answers. So you're just spinning the wheel and going
in circles, with no purpose and no plan. At least the hamster in the wheel is getting
exercise, you're going no where with your thinking.
Not having a care in the world is
impossible, and also a little delusional. You have to care about certain
things, it's called
maintenance. You can take a break,
but not forever. (false sense of security).
Nonchalant is a feeling or appearing casually calm and relaxed; not displaying
anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm. It
doesn't have to mean that you don't take things serious, it just means you
are in control and not overreacting.
"My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which
never happened." (Michel
"Don't let the things you don't have spoil the things that you
do have." Life Quotes
Over thinking and
paranoia are two different things. It's good to have
an open mind to all the possibilities, but try not go to far in
one direction. I don't worry about the things that I
cannot totally control because that would be paranoid, which is
I prepare myself as best as I can by
analyzing as much
information that I can.
Then I try to learn as much as I can from the experience.
pessimism, or just
being content, are illogical perceptions and a complete waste of
time, and time is all you have.
on the back for all the wrong reasons,
or thinking things will
be OK , or thinking things will be bad, or being happy with the
way things are, is just more distractions. Logically analyzing
the situation is your best bet. Every human is privileged to
have time, so please don't waste it on illogical
To be logical is to be happy. After all the brain is designed to
function on logic. So logic is logical. Moving forward with a
There’s a big difference between worrying and actually
asking a question and understanding the answer to that question.
Concerns should only be questions. Asking the right questions
and getting the right answers. Easier said then done, but it has
to be done. You have to learn how to reprocess old memories and
old experiences. You need to reorganize old knowledge with new
knowledge. You have to learn what questions to ask. This will
help you better understand yourself and help you better
understand past experiences. Over
Paranoia are two different things. it's good to have
an open mind to all the possibilities, but try not go to far in
"Caring about what someone thinks is always
better then worrying about what someone else thinks."
I see a lot of people struggle with
anxieties, anxieties that are created within themselves and
not so much related to what is happening in that moment. Worry
turns into fear, then fear turns into panic, then panic turns
into uncontrollable emotions and possibly a mental breakdown.
Anxiety to me is a misunderstood perception of your current
state. So Anxiety is more about a persons lack of information
and knowledge and not so much related to their lack of
chemistry. But some physical ailments like lack of sleep,
hunger, or other physical imbalances may cause the brain to
misinterpret certain information in the brain.
To interpret this
information correctly a person needs a good understanding of
their body and their mind. The stresses
of life can sometimes be overwhelming, but don't overreact. Relax and
analyze the questions carefully. Most of the time the answers are already
within you. But there are times when you do need more information. That is
when you need to seek out this needed information. But when seeking out
this needed information try to stay within your current priorities and
responsibilities. You don't want distractions to cause more harm then
Thinking about the "what ifs" more then once is a waste of time, especially when
a what if is highly improbable and impossible to plan for. Not
to say that it's impossible, it's just more logical to
to the things that are most likely to happen, things that you
can control. You have to
prioritize the things that matter so that you are
things that are more important and most likely to impact your
life or most likely to
benefit your life.
Why do we see our
problems as not being so bad when we compare them to other
peoples problems? Our problems are still bad, just because
someone else's problems are worse then ours that should not make
our problems seem less significant. They are still significant.
Worrying is a result of not having enough information,
or just forgetting the information that you already have, or not correctly
understanding the information that you already have.
Yourself Together, when people
fall apart they might find that putting themselves back together
in the right way is not that easy. When questioning yourself you
have to be very careful not to ask questions that you cannot
answer correctly. Except the fact that you don't have all the
But luckily with the internet, the chances of finding
someone with the answers to your problems is more probable then
any other time in human history.
The realm of
logic is a sanctuary that all humans should visit often, or
at the least know where the sanctuary of logic resides. But even
then, knowing that you are
human is an
understanding that as humans we
cannot fully control
everything or even come close to being
aware of everything, in our
world or in
ourselves. So we must, at this moment, except this fact. But
acceptance of the
uncertainty does not mean that one should ignore the things
that a person knows to be
This is where knowledge truly stands out as being the most
powerful tool that every human should possess. The feeling of
emptiness or the feeling that you have no life or hope is just a
reaction that humans experience when they stop educating
themselves. When you stop learning you are always going to be
vulnerable and struggle more with everyday life situations.
As we live our lives as best as we can between those moments of
doing and not doing, continually learning is really the only
logical thing that we can do. And when it comes to giving advice
or taking advice from someone else, always keep in mind that
advice is only the beginning of many
questions that you need to answer. Like what is 'learning'
and what are the things that a person needs to learn? Humans
have been on a
journey from the beginning. Searching and walking almost the
entire earths surface for that
shangri la or that place that a person can call 'home'.
But as soon as we arrive, the first thing we learn is that the
Physical Journey was just the beginning and that the Ultimate Journey is the Journey of the
mind. (Howard Polley, 08/14/2011).
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Please don't worry. Educate yourself and learn the facts,
and then take the most appropriate logical action. Don't worry
just learn as much as you can and then move on,
there is only
so much time in a day, so use it well.
Seek solutions to problems and then educate others about what
you have learned. A better world is waiting for us, but it will
never come if we are just sitting around
blaming others for our
And for those who believe that everything is alright, please
wakeup, for you have more opportunities to make a difference
then those who have to spend most of their time just surviving.
You too have to educate yourself and learn the facts. Don't dread or fear the
things you have to do tomorrow, just do them, finish the task at
hand and remember that you will have many accomplishments
tomorrow. So look at tomorrow as, How many things will I