Introvert - Extravert
is being concerned with the social and physical environment. (psychology) a person concerned more with
practical realities than with inner thoughts and feelings.
is a person who tends to shrink from social contacts and to become preoccupied with their own thoughts.
is having both extrovert and introvert personality traits.
There is a big difference between someone having
about crowds or
having a lack of
, then someone
who is just showing careful forethought and avoiding excess. I'm
concerned with the social and physical environment, so the
question is, is what I'm doing the most productive and effective
actions that are
, practical and
positive? There has to be a balance between
and entertainment. Not to say that
all social engagements are about entertainment, because some
social activities actually provide great experiences filled with
good information and useful knowledge. Of course not without
risk, but either way. Social engagements seem to be better when
you have some kind of a plan or purpose, other then just going
for the adventure, which I have done 100's of times. Not to say
that all those
were necessary, I was just doing things and not
really thinking about things, which was not all that bad because
at that time I had few good things to think about, thanks to
that sucky public education. I mostly felt the need for
without even knowing why. If I did nothing
I felt like I just wasn't doing enough, and the embarrassment of
doing nothing was too great, especially if your friends found
out. I felt uncomfortable on Friday nights if no one called or
if I failed to make plans, but for some reason on other days it
was ok, not too much pressure. Some people shy away from social
activities because they feel uncomfortable
in crowds. But going
with a Friend
sometimes helps, well most of the time anyway. Insecure maybe,
maybe, maybe just tired, or maybe just not
interested in interacting with other people at that moment. Is
Phobia about Crowds
or just the fact that I have not learned
enough about myself and the world around me? And how badly has this
affected you? Maybe your shyness was a good thing? I
guess that depends on you, can you learn from it? Of course you
can. There's a big difference between
. And the important thing here is to
keep learning. If you stop learning, then you are stuck with the knowledge
you have, which is not enough, so keep learning.
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is a social behavior that "benefit[s] other people or society as a whole,"
"such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering."
is a conscious or
avoidance of a
situation or social interaction.
Social Anxiety Disorder
is characterized by a significant
amount of Fear
in one or more social situations
causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least
some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or
actual scrutiny from others.
is characterized by symptoms of Anxiety
situations where the person perceives the environment to be unsafe with no
easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public
transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home. Being in these
situations may result in a panic attack. The symptoms occur nearly every
time the situation is encountered and lasts for more than six months.
Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid these situations. In
severe cases people may become unable to leave their homes.
is a fear of dinner parties.
Avoidant Personality Disorder
a pattern of social inhibition, feelings
of inadequacy and inferiority, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation,
and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire to be close to
others. Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as
uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others. The behavior
typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of
is when a person who is normally capable of
speech does not speak in specific situations or to specific people.
Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. People
with selective mutism stay silent even when the consequences of their
silence include shame, social ostracism or even punishment.
refers to those aspects of an individual's personality, such as
introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather
Assessments can be Flawed
It can't be
just about you
is a person who lives in voluntary seclusion from the public and society.
is a person who
lives in seclusion from society.
Silence is Golden
Right to Silence
refers to a self-imposed state of complete
or near-complete lack of contact between an individual and society. It
differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary lack of contact with
other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any age,
though symptoms may differ by age group.
is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people.
It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice,
infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or
circumstances of employment or situation.
is shutting out or keeping apart from society, or the state of
being secluded, or a place that facilitates it (a secluded place). A
person, a couple, or a larger group may go to a secluded place for
privacy, or because the place is quiet. Seclusion of a single person is
also called solitude.
- Separatism Personal Space
is the study of human use of
and the effects that
are guidelines, rules or limits that a
person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other
people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone
passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs,
opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.
to Set Boundaries
RelationshipsPeople who have lived
Alone in IsolationSolitary Confinement
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is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior,
impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited,
are actions that harm or lack
consideration for the well-being of others.
is a pervasive pattern of disregard
for, or violation of, the rights of others. An impoverished moral sense or
conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal
problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior.
Anti-Social Behaviour Order
Loneliness and Risk of Alzheimer Disease
So what types of social interactions
are healthy? And how many social interactions does a person need?
Being alone means that you can do what you want
, when you want, and
think what you want, without having to accommodate other peoples needs, or
deal with distractions or any pressure or outside influences. But being
able to do what you want and when you want without restrictions can be
dangerous, especially if you have no control, or don't have knowledge of
the causes and effects of your actions. You need to have certain
responsibilities when you're alone as well as when you're with other
people. Both can be rewarding, and both can have their dangers. Freedom is
only beneficial when you can do beneficial things.
is a skill that everyone
should learn. Reality
Is being alone a form of
What are some of
the benefits of being alone and having time to yourself
Fear of Being Alone Meditation - How to Overcome the Fear of
Solitude should be about replacing
, so that processing new information encourages
, as well as increased understanding of the self
and the world around you.
Immune System can effect Social Behavior
About 50.2 percent, or 124.6 million
American adults, are Single
62% Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013
who had never been married.
Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
18 million unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2013. For
First Time In 130 Years, More Young Adults Live With Parents Than With
Partners. Americans ages 18-34 are more likely to live with their parents
than in any other living situation.
who lives with their parents beyond their late 20s or
early 30s in order to enjoy a carefree and comfortable life.
Parasitism (social offense)
is one who lives at another's
Single people are one of the
world's greatest resources.
should be looked upon as a honorable life
choice. Single people can dedicate themselves to the world and
provide a great service that helps the needy and helps the
uneducated to become educated. This way families can focus more
time and energy towards their family instead of having to spend
precious time away from their family to combat the worlds
problems that are over whelming families. As of 2012 there's
about 32.7 million Americans living
does not mean that you are
. And being lonely does not mean that you are
complex and usually unpleasant emotional response
to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness can be felt even when
surrounded by other people, even in marriages, relationships, families,
veterans and successful careers.Depression
A recent study from the United Kingdom reveals some surprising
that one person in 10 people has no close friends, so
as many as 5 million people in the U.K. might be friendless, so
you see, finding a good friend is not easy, but not impossible.
There are some 700,000
in Japan, young people who are completely
isolated and afraid to reintegrate into society.
People should not feel alone, even though
loneliness is perceived to be real and the emotions are
definitely felt, I believe that we are more connected then we
realize, so loneliness seems to be more of an illusion. Just
like something that you use to be
of, but now you're not.
So even fear is created from a lack of information, just like
most of our
. Many of us are somewhere between being connected
and being disconnected. So when everyone together finally
realizes that we are all connected, that's when we will finally
reach our full potential.
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is the human emotional need to be an accepted
member of a group. Whether it is
, or something else,
people tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important
part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship
that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to
belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.
There is a big difference between Solitude and forced
holds that knowledge
of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world
and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the
mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the
conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist.
Mal de Coucou
is a phenomenon in which
you have an active social life but very few close friends—people
who you can trust, who you can be yourself with, who can help
flush out the weird psychological toxins that tend to accumulate
over time—which is a form of acute social malnutrition in which
even if you devour an entire buffet of chitchat, you’ll still
feel pangs of hunger.
is a dream that each random
passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your
own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines,
worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues
invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground,
with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that
you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once,
as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of
traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
We are the background and in the
foreground at the same time and at all times. It's just how you
look at it, and it's what you choose to focus on, and it's how
much you understand, and how much you know.
Everyone needs someone in their life to share life with, even if
it's only for a moment. You can live by yourself and still be social once
in a while so that you do not lose contact.
Solitude is a Skill
10 Stories of People Who Shunned Civilization for Years
born 16 April 1944, is a Russian Old Believer, part of the Lykov family,
who survived alone in the Taiga for most of her life. Lykova became a
national phenomenon in the early 1980s when Vasily Peskov published
articles about her family and their extreme isolation from the rest of
society. Lykova is the sole surviving member of the clan and has been
mostly self-sufficient since 1988, when her father died. In 2014, she
wrote a letter that was published online, requesting anyone to come
her home to be her helper as her "health is waning".
are communities who live, or have lived,
either by choice (peoples living in voluntary isolation) or by
circumstance, without significant contact with global civilization. Few
peoples have remained totally uncontacted by global civilization.
Indigenous rights activists call for such groups to be left alone, stating
that it will interfere with their right to
He Spent 40 Years
Alone in the Woods, and Now Scientists Love Him | Short Film Showcase
video of Gothic, Colorado—one of the coldest places in the United States.
This ghost town has been abandoned since the 1920s, but there is at least
one person who still calls it home. For more than 40 years, current
resident Billy Barr
has lived in a small
cabin, recording data about the snowpack to pass the time. In this short
film, Morgan Heim of Day’s Edge Productions profiles the legendary local
who inadvertently provided scientists with a treasure trove of climate
Treating Depression with a Virtual Space Station
Everyone thinks a little
differently and sometimes sees things in their own way
, and in those
differences is where we learn more about ourselves and learn more about
the world around us. We need each other to learn, and sharing what we have
learned is natural to life. That is how humans have survived and thrived
for thousands of years, and also
how life survives
. Everyone exploring the world in their own way is
like Bees scattering to find food for the hive, because it's more
effective to have bees searching in multiple places, And bees never forget
where the hive is or forget where they found food. So, I will tell you
what I found if you tell me what you found. Choices, Options, Actions -
Learn, Love, Live, Prosper, Repeat.
is being shy and reserved. Affectedly modest or shy especially in a
playful or provocative way.
(also called diffidence) is the feeling
of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person
is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with
unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low
self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social
anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness
is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's
behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what
he or she wants to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at or
humiliated, criticism, and/or rejection. A shy person may simply opt to
avoid social situations instead.
reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her
own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the
self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am
competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph,
despair, pride, and shame.Confidence
is having freedom from vanity or conceit. Simplicity; Having a humble
opinion of yourself. Exhibiting restrained good taste.
is the trait of being uncommunicative;
more than necessary.
Quotes About Solitude
"The best thinking has been done in solitude." ~
Thomas A. Edison
"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." ~
"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being
alone can be." ~
"Solitude is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you
must pay attention to it." ~
"When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly
value the only companion we will have from birth to death, which
is ourselves." ~
"Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can
only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child
of solitude." ~
Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe
"Every kind of creative work demands solitude, and being alone,
constructively alone, is a prerequisite for every phase of the
creative process." ~ Barbara Powell
"To have never known oneself is to have never known anyone."
"Sometimes there are more scary things inside of us than there is outside
Yourself to be Yourself
"There is no I, or You, or Them. You're me,
I'm you, and we're everyone. A branch is not separate from the
tree, the branch is the tree."
"I'm my own best friend, and just like most
friendships, I sometimes ignore myself and disrespect myself,
good friendships are never perfect."
"People are sometimes more what they hide,
than what they show."
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surround yourself with yourself